On what made me different than most PUA’s:
What made me different is that somewhere around 2009, I started to realize that pick up, dating, seduction, love, romance—whatever you want to call it—is an emotional process and that it seemed insane that no PUA theory ever addressed men’s emotions. Anger, guilt, shame, loneliness, excitement, fear, passion—these things were never mentioned in all of the theory, even so-called “inner game” theory. Yet, the way one deals with these emotions literally defines a person’s long-term success and happiness in their love life.
It also occurred to me that men were using PUA techniques and theory as a diversion or placebo to cope with their underlying emotional/self-esteem issues. They were attacking the symptoms while remaining oblivious to the illness.
On masculinity and my change in philosophy behind my business:
As the years rolled along a few things happened. One was the emotional stuff I mentioned above. Another was I noticed that just about every single guy I worked with grew up with a weak or absent father-figure, including myself. I polled a PUA forum and sure enough over 85% of them reported having poor or non-existent relationships with their fathers. I dove into psychology pretty hard and came to see the industry as an over-compensation for low self-esteem men trying to assert some sort of masculinity they never received growing up. We all lacked male role models, so we congregated online and attempted to act as male role models for each other by committee.
Full interview here. What amazes me the most is that I managed to air my thoughts out on a feminist website without getting absolutely shredded. That’s never happened before.
Also, Clarisse recently released her book Confessions of a Pick Up Artist Chaser on Kindle. It’s about her experiences spending a year within the PUA community as a feminist writer, both the good and bad. I’ll probably do a full review at a later date, but it’s worth acknowledging that I’m referenced and quoted quite a bit in it and that it is a very good read.