“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
- Eleanor Roosevelt
If you complain that everyone is mean to you and treats you unfairly, then you are going to piss people off and motivate them to be mean to you and treat you unfairly.
If you appreciate everyone and the attention and opportunities they offer you, then you are going to make people happy and motivate them to give you attention and opportunities.
Believe it or not, you have influence over how people treat you, and it all has to do with how you feel about how they treat you.
It may not feel like a choice, but it’s a choice. You can appreciate other people in your life, or you can complain about them. Appreciating them leads to happiness and good interactions. Complaining leads to more isolation, more depression, and more humiliation. You have this choice with every single person you talk to, every day of your life.
Even if a person is a raging asshole and offensive to you, they provide you with opportunities to learn, to grow, to become more resilient, to prove them wrong, to challenge yourself and become something better than they think you are, to develop more confidence, to become less affected by social pressures, to become less affected by superficial insults, to become more resolute in your values and ideals, to develop strong boundaries, to stand your ground and develop more self-respect, to motivate yourself and inspire yourself, to become something stronger, greater and better than you could have been before.
Turn around and thank them for giving you this opportunity. See what happens.
I’m not saying you don’t have real problems in your life. What I’m saying is that we ALL have real problems in our lives. What matters is what we do about them. How we see them and how we react to them. Not whether we have them or not.
It’s all right there in front of you, you just have to choose to see it.
Every criticism should be used as fuel to better yourself and be appreciated as such. Every fault pointed out by others should be taken as friendly advice, even if it wasn’t intended as such. Every slight is a compliment. Every failure an opportunity.
Love conquers fear. So start conquering.
People will treat you the way which you expect to be treated. If you expect people to treat you like a whiny bitch, then they will treat you like a whiny bitch. If you expect to be treated with respect and authority, then they will treat you with respect and authority.
This is not rocket science.
It was you. All along, it was you and within you. Wake up.