Evolution and Sexual Behavior

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Science goes through fads like anything else. Every now and then, it becomes fashionable to describe phenomena with one theoretical framework. At the moment, it’s en vogue to interpret human behavior and sexuality in terms of evolutionary psychology. “Men are hardwired to spread their seed to as many women as possible.” “Women are programmed to [...]

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Psychotherapy

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In late 2006, I realized I needed a therapist. Maybe it was because I was prone to dramatic outbursts over inconsequential comments and criticisms from women around me. Maybe it was because I was going out and drinking six nights a week. Maybe it was because any time a girl told me she cared about [...]

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There Are Cracks In Everything: An Essay In Quotes

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“Before you speak, ask yourself: Is it necessary? Is it true? Does it improve upon the silence?”      - Shirdi Sai Baba “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the [...]

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The Ipanema Boardwalk

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On the boardwalk at Ipanema Beach, it’s a sunny Sunday afternoon in Rio de Janeiro. Skateboarders, rollerbladers, joggers, surfers, bikers, juicers, tanners, vacationers, staffers — they all pass by, skin shiny and mildly naked. Sand and salt and vanity fill the air. There are small outdoor gyms every couple hundred meters along the beach: bars [...]

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Meditation: Why You Should Do It

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Take a moment. Breathe. Focus your mind. Slow down and read each word. Become aware of yourself reading this sentence, this paragraph. You sitting there, focusing on each word, one by one. Become aware of each sound as it echoes in your mind, the one you’re hearing right now, and this one, and again and [...]

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