Answering the age question

[Tim]

It's highly likely yes, but they're not the same thing. The high self-esteem isn't going to mean you discover that you really like women who are very introverted and quiet, that comes from spending time around women like that. High self-esteem might mean you are more honest with yourself about what your preferences are, but it's still mainly going to come from spending time around women.

I know plenty of guys who have a brief history with women, but know exactly what their standards are. It comes from the standards they've created in the rest of their life, not from their history with women.