Question on cold approaching

[Thor]

To be honest I dont like dancing. Went to a yoga class a few times but the women all had boyfriends. I am really feeling down at the moment. Some days when I am doing other stuff that I enjoy doing I am happy but as soon as I see a girl and guy walking hand in hand I feel sad inside. The only thing that gets me high and back on my feet is the gym, travelling or MMA.

I did a session with an approach coach while back and he said my approaches are ok good vocal tone good body language. The problem is I dont have much experience with women.

Had alot of personal issues as a child had a dominant father who forced me to do stuff I dont want to do. I spent a short while taking anti depressents and did some therapy that helped to clear my mind. I never even had a a girlfriend it hurts to tell you this.

The trouble is because of my lack of experience with woman I feel afraid of showing that part of me. I am bit lost on this whole path.

Sometimes I am afraid a girl will find out I have never had a relationship and she will think I am a loser.

(04-01-2012 04:09 PM)FirstAidKit Wrote:  It sounds like you might be projecting quite a lot of bitterness or anger when you're speaking to these women and they pick up on it... I wouldn't want to go out with someone who describes women as "fucking bitches". And while it is better to be honest about not being interested, it's often times easier to just give out your number and then ignore it, I've had a couple of times where guys have been fairly hostile after being turned down.

I think you might have better results trying more social avenues of dating rather than just cold approaching, especially when you're older and want your personality to shine better. Have you thought of trying a dance class or something? Really good women/male ratios...