Blaming Myself For This Particular Rejection

[Tim]

Sounds like you didn't do too much wrong.

I can't say for sure, but it doesn't seem like she's looking for a relationship with you. And having said that, I don't think you should continue to sleep with her for very long if that is what you want.

What I would do is wait until she gets back, and then see her again a couple of times again just to get your head completely straight about whether you do want a relationship, because if you are sure, then you'll be able to feel strongly that it's that or nothing, and be honest with her about what you're looking for.

Then you should have a talk to her, and explain that you're looking for her to be something more than just sex. Be understanding that she might not be sure about that, and that you're willing to take things slow.

Then if she's interested take things from there, and don't feel the need to rush anything. If she's not, then you weren't compatible and that's fine. You don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you.

Also, and you might want to post this in a new thread, can you give a bit more detail about those negative beliefs you mentioned? Probably a good time to start airing those out.