(03-10-2012 04:33 PM)Guyintheback Wrote: - Tell me what you think about my situation. What do you think where my problems are? What would you advise me to do? Did I miss something?
Your problem is not knowing what you want in life. If you know what you want, you know what you need to do. It's that simple. If you're hungry, you eat. You don't need a life coach for that.
So, what do you do want?? Don't say girls, you don't want girls. If you want girls, you can go to hookers but you don't go to hookers because you don't want girls. The need for girls is always a symptom of a bigger problem. In my experience is that not knowing what you want in life.
How do you know what you want?? Stop RUNNING. Everybody is so busy running, that they forget to live. They are busy with school, work, kids, girls,... The moment where they can't run anymore, is the moment they start regretting. Why else do you think so much people regret their lives on their deathbed?? http://ohdarling.posterous.com/nurse-rev...ple-make-o
Just stop!! Stop doing, start living!! And living you do it in the moment, where there's peace. Mother Nature is the equivalent of peace. Can you watch to this (http://vimeo.com/35396305)
without feeling an incredible urge of inner peace?? I didn't think so.
Go for a walk each day when it's quite. Just let your mind wandering away.
It can take 1 week, 3 months or 2 years before you realize your purpose, but you're going to realize it. You feel it when you see it.
I can say you what I want in life, PEACE. I don't want to be happy, I don't want to be a millionaire, I don't want to fuck Angelina Jolie,... I want peace. Dying with a big fuckin' smile on my face is the ultimate goal, being in peace with death must be an incredible feeling. In my opinion, everybody wants peace once they realize that happiness is an utopia.
When you know what you want, you can break it down.
I want inner peace, but what's peace?? Peace is a feeling of satisfaction. Where there's peace, there's balance.
If we go back to food, when are you satisfied??
I LOVE pancakes, I would almost die for a pancake. But I couldn't eat them forever. So, there must be diversity.
Okay, that sounds logical.
What else do I need for peace??
My diversity must balanced. In other words I also need focus.
PEACE = DIVERSITY + FOCUS
Now, that's something I can handle.
So, my life must be diversified and focused.
Like I said before I think everyone wants peace but the way they diversify and focus is for everyone different.
I diversify my life in 7 general segments:
My focus is on 3 values, because if you stand for nothing, you will fall for anything.
That's my purpose, it doesn't change but my goals changes a lot. My destination stays the same, but the journey changes due experiences, circumstances,...
But knowing what you want isn't enough, that's only one element of the quotation. Like I said by knowing what you want, you know what you need to do. It's that simple.
Fat people know what they want and know what they need to do, but they don't do it.
It's fucking hard, it's certainly not easy.
Simple? Yes! Easy? Hell no!
It's going to be the hardest thing you will ever do, but it will be worth it.
The next step is building a vision. A vision is not a dream!!
If you want it as bad as you want to breath, it's vision otherwise it's just a dream.
How do you make a dream a vision?? Simple, let you remind it every second of the day.
Every morning, the first thing I do when I wake-up is listening to this guy. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oa1j2kBIYOw
It's ET - The Hip Hop Preacher. http://www.youtube.com/user/etthehiphopp...e=g-user-u
After that I just sit on my bed and visualize my perfect life while listening to Ready for War - Daniz. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mayPhOyQJXU
It get you pumped up, I can tell you that. You're ready for a marathon after that.
Then I eat breakfast and I go for a walk at the beach for some deep introspection.
That will solve are your problems. Do it for 30 days and you will be another man!!
It's not some sort of magical pill. You still gonna have fears, but that's what makes life interesting. Give me a successful person, and I give you a person that has suffered. Pain/fears are part of the deal.
You going to have the courage to face yours fears, because you have a rock solid foundation.
That's the problem with society, masculinity,... they don't have any foundation anymore.
How higher you want to build your tower, how deeper you need to go.
(03-10-2012 04:33 PM)Guyintheback Wrote: - For the very short term: Going out alone. What are your experiences? I already did it, but back then I could tell everybody I was new in town and wanted to get to know people. If I went out alone now, I'd feel kinda creepy, coming from a mindset of desperation and loneliness. What mindset could I use?
Mark has covered that in one of his blog post. http://postmasculine.com/do-something
You can sum it up like this: "if you don't feel it, do something different"
I hope this helps!! Let me know!