Shouldn't the point of "game" or "PUA" be to pick up all kinds of women? (my log)
Dude, here is a step-by-step plan for you. Shut the fuck up and follow it. Yes, you heard me. SHUT THE FUCK UP AND FOLLOW IT. This plan will work. But the little that I've read in this thread suggests you'll make excuses and chicken out. I don't know why, but your thread is just making me boil with anger. I don't see a man. I see a scared little boy who has no control over himself and is entirely jostled by his circumstances. You will never be able to accomplish anything in life if you don't get out of this excuse-making habit of yours. I wrote a big reply to you, but iPhone problems meant that it got lost. Anyway, here is my last attempt at helping a fucking excuse-maker like you.
Before I give you the plan, here are the core principles of life:
1) Never give up on what you want. Fight the whole world if you have to, but don't give up until you drop dead.
2) Never make excuses for why you don't have something. Excuses allow you to accept your lot. They allow you to give up because you have a "reason". They encourage mediocrity. Mark had a post on this called, "I can but I choose not to". Go look it up.
3) Don't underestimate the power of simple actions. People often think that shit is more complicated than it is. It is not. It is very simple. Want to be good at basketball? Practice 5 hours a day for 5 years and you'll be really good. People want shortcuts and they disregard the simple actions in favor of a "magic pill" that does not exist. BTW 95% of pickup is a "magic pill" that does not work.
4) Be indifferent to people that don't like you. Chasing after people that don't like you and trying to make them like you is a symptom of a larger problem - the problem of being ungrateful for what you have. Such people are pereinially unhappy because they don't know how to appreciate what they have. In other words, they are pessimists. The specific application in your case is not that you be indifferent to all white girls. You fucking racist bigot, remember that you are fucking stereotyping an entire race as being bigoted without making any exceptions for individual personality characteristics. Even at the peak of racism (KKK etc.), people like Jack Johnson were dating white girls by the hordes. If anything, it is a testament to the variety of human-kind. Truth be told, you are a bigger bigot than all the white girls that you trash. You are stereotyping an entire race, while they are only "rejecting" you. And rightfully so, who wants to be with a bigot like you?
Here is the step-by-step action plan for you. Follow it if you want to change your life. Otherwise, you can always go back to the cozy confines of your excuse-making cell and wallow in your misery.
1) Resolve right now to date a white girl. Write your resolve down on a piece of paper/smartphone. It can be something as simple as "I will date a white girl".
2) Your goal is to now do anything necessary to achieve (1). With that in mind, resolve that you will interact with a 100 white girls (either cold approach or normal social interaction). Write this resolve down on the paper/phone.
3) With each of the 100 girls, here is what you are going to do. No gimmicks, no game. All you are going to do is say, "I find you cute, I'd like to take you out sometime". Let her respond. If she is interested, great. Exchange info and set up a date. No need to thank me. If she is not, politely walk away.
4) Break down the 100 interactions above into a manageable small chunk number. For example, 1 girl a day. Whatever you come up with, you must achieve that target that day. Write this resolve on the paper/phone.
5) Set up an accountability system with a buddy that you trust. Tell him about your 1 approach a day and ask him to keep you accountable. Tell him you'll give $10 everyday you don't approach/interact with 1 girl and ask her out.
6) Review your resolutions in (1), (2) and (4) every four hour every day. You can use smartphone reminders for this. People often fall off the wagon, because their old goals are replaced by new goals. It is just a symptom of lack of focus and tenacity.
That's it. Do these 6 steps above and if you don't find a white girl ready to date you, you can make all the excuses you want.
For extra motivation:
1) I am asian (not born and raised here) and white girls are attracted to me all the time. I've not been with a huge number of girls, but two of them were white.
2) One of my good friends is Indian and he is getting married to a white chick from the deep south.
2) I used the same plan above to get a same night lay and to drop 16 lbs in two months.
(This post was last modified: 03-02-2012 06:49 AM by shadow.)