I really don't know if we are supposed to discuss the suggestions in this thread but this is interesting. Yeah, this can relate to dating, definitely. I think often times we don't want to take a risk, we don't know what's gonna happen in the future and usually we don't what to "lose" what we want, name it: a hot chick, more money, marriage, etc. So, what we do? We fucking over-analyze, we are scared of making a "wrong"decision and therefore we do NOTHING. This is a clear pattern in this forum, a lot of guys over-analyze and do nothing or do too much, I think the only way to know what's gonna happen is trying and KNOWING that you can "fail" but you can learn from your mistake, if there's any; you can't control the fucking world. After all, life is uncertain.
This reminds me the life of Donald Trump, that guy is a multimillionare, but he has lost a lot of money and the guy recovers it later. It seems that he's not afraid of losing money because he KNOWS he can make more money again and doesn't regret anything. He just try, takes a CALCULATED risk (even though nobody knows what is gonna happen in the future) and follow his decision. PERIOD, no more over-analysis, no more BS, he just do it. And if he loses money he doesn't regret it, because: why are you gonna cry over spilt milk?
Alvar, you have to stay present, read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. That book is about being present (that's what you do when you meditate). When you are ruminating you are in your head, you are not living the present, you are using A LOT of psychological time, you are not living life, you are IMAGINING life. That book is awesome! You can read this version to skip the religious stuff in case you are not a religuous person like myself: http://www.amazon.com/Practicing-Power-N...717&sr=1-2
You are way too much in your head.
I love this book too: http://www.amazon.com/How-Stop-Worrying-...774&sr=1-1
Good techniques about how to stop worrying.