When I care too much (when I'm needy?)

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Leo -

If you take the same attitude you have when it's a girl that you aren't attracted to towards the girls that you are, you'll get much better results. You think that because a girl is pretty she must be different than one who isn't; that is why you automatically assign a bunch of "special" traits to her even though you don't know her.

Attraction is attraction whether the girl is pretty, fat, skinny, or ugly. Most men like good size tits. When a woman wears a low cut shirt and she walks into a room, does it matter what the guy looks like? Are not all guys' attraction triggers flipped?

One of the very first mistakes men make is thinking they have to behave differently towards women they like vs women they don't. Take a very hot girl for example. Her attractiveness is pretty universal is it not? She doesn't attract JUST hot guys or ugly guys or tall guys or short guys or white guys or black guys. If she is hot she attracts almost all guys.

That is how each man needs to look at his own life. You need to be attractive to females IN GENERAL. It's not a switch you can turn on and off and only turn it on when you talk to the girl you like.

So take the attitude you listed out in the second list and apply it to the girls you like. It'll take some hard mental work, I know....but do it for a month actively and see if you don't get much better results.