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[Edmond Dantès]

@Schmechti: I noticed that my body language drastically improved as I raised my self-esteem. I see it the way that your body language is a representation of your internal state [how you feel yourself (today and in general), what your mindset is like, how much confidence and self-esteem you have]

I mean think of "naturals" . Do they have to think about the way they carry themselves? Do you really think a natural thinks "I have to look here in the eyes. I have to stand like this and do this that slowly" Nah, man. They don't or at least not conciously.

An interesting experiment I did with a friend of mine a few weeks ago really supported this thesis. I asked him to walk confident. And he walked. But not confident. He walked "I think this is the way you have to walk as a confident guy". It wasn't authentic and it was definitely not attractive. And women can see your fake behaviour/body language 20 times better than men and you can't fake it all day long.

That's why I think most body language advice/workshops are crap.

Hope that helped.