Trust Issues

[Leo]

[quote=Alvar]Part of the problem is that these girls can be such great prospects, when they are at their best they're amazing. I think was Bob Glover who said that nice guys keep investing on these girls because the hopeful reward is so high. And we still long for these girls, we're wired that way.
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I don't think we ARE WIRED this way. This is a perfect example of how we idealize a girl and we overlook her flaws: trust issues and other she MUST have, and care way too much more about her rather than ourselves. Huge syndrome of the nice guy. These girls just think about themselves, they don't care if we have to wait a long time for them, they are gonna be available when they feel they are ready and that's gonna take a longtime if it really happens. Another factor that's happening here is the assumption that this girl is the ONLY special girl on earth when she's at her best. There are more girls out there with the same qualities and hopefully not fucked up like her. This situation of tunnel vision narrow our chances with other girls and doesn't allow us to see her flaws. After all if we haven't gone out on dates with a girl like this (or if she disappears without any explanation , like Halo Effect mentioned before) we really don't know this girl. I've noticed too that this kind of crazy girls take advantage of their social circle to TRY to go out on dates again, because that's the only way they can feel more confident: having the guy pretty close to them. Their precautions are huge! Nothing is never enough and we think way too much about them, instead of ourselves.