Quote:baller08, I didn't specified anywhere here what I am looking for in a girl.
You absolutely did. You implied it by stating that you want a woman to like being able to spend time with you doing things that are not of high interest to women in general. But that's beside the point.
Quote:It's hard to be a man of integrity, unless you can clearly and honestly tell anyone, that you work out or dress well to have sex.
No it's not. Ashley up there doesn't have to tell you that she...
- Works out 3 times a week doing cardio and yoga
- Does her nails every two weeks and waxes once a month
- Reads certain women's magazines to know the latest fashions
- Learned how to apply make up properly from her aunt.
She doesn't need to tell you you all that for you to be attracted to her. All you're attracted to is the finished product. If you dated her you may find all those things out, but it won't matter then because you'll also know her for all the other aspects of her personality and mind.
She can tell you other more substaincial things about her life and you'll care because she's already taken care of her responsibilities to be as attractive as possible.
Quote:What I infer from your post, is that if I want the girl to be attractive, fit and look good, I shall offer the same thing. Sounds fair. This is something I can live with.
Bingo. If you didn't understand anything else I was saying....this right here was the most important anyway. That's it. Everything else what Chaos and Sexyback said already covers it.
You're actually in a very good position, Seele. You're coming to the point where you're learning how to merge what you think are two separate sides of your life. They're not separate. It's not fake. You're learning how to be an attractive man and at the same time being able to share other parts of you that isn't "main stream". That's perfectly ok and not only is it "ok"...it's desirable.
Keep doing what you're doing and asking what you're asking. You're on a very good path and so long as you're improving on both sides of your life, they will eventually merge together.
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