No More Mr. Nice Guy and self improvement

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I started reading "No More Mr. Nice Guy". I reached the page with lists of things man admit to do, to please others. Gym. Dancing. Nice hair. Nice clothes. Having career.

Shit, it's all I am doing.

I took some advice from Mark very seriously, like hitting the Gym (it's 8 months I am training three times a week, keeping my weight and increasing weight) and dressing well. I live alone (since I am 19), I join dancing classes Salsa. And for the first fucking time in my life I am consciously trying to get longer hair to look better (I always hated having long hair and kept them short, so they are easy to dry and I don't need a comb).

But now I read this stuff and I wonder, whether I am not doing it really to please others. And it's damn hard to deny, that I am doing it to get attention from ladies. Isn't it just seeking validation from them? I don't really know. How am I supposed to diagnose, whether I am doing this stuff to please others?