The Success Stories Thread

[Chaos]

Quickly, to follow the style you've set...

Three or four months ago I was really into a girl. She seemed perfect, funny, hot... we connected greatly... We kissed in our second date just before I drop her home, everything looked like the typical Hollywood movie. The next day I wrote her a message, we went on for a couple of minutes, my friends were going to a movie and I asked her if she wanted to come. She told me she had family coming home but she'd really like the idea and that she would give me a call later to let me know if I should pick her a ticket or not. She didn't and I didn't hear from her until two days later, where she acted like nothing happened. I told her she was giving me mixed signals... basically "you can't kiss me one night, then stood me up the next day then act like nothing happened" ... She said she'd only kissed me because "that's what she though I wanted".

Two months ago I met another really hot girl. I approached her and invited her out. We met, made out and had sex... We kept contact but we weren't able to see each other for almost a month. I ask her out and she was evasive and finally she "confessed" she had met another guy. I told her that was totally cool (and indeed it was) and wished her good luck with whatever developed.

So, again, why is that a success story? ... A year ago I would have been devastated by those things. I would have been thinking "what have I done wrong?" "where did I failed to play her" or "this guy must have something I don't have"...

But I didn't. In the first case I just nexted her. I didn't like where things were going, I wasn't liking what I was seeing and basically I regarded it as her being on a different place, being unsure or whatever, whereas before I would have thought there was something wrong about me!! In the second case I'm amazed at how I really didn't care. Of course I was disappointed, but I didn't take it as something I did wrong or another guy stealing her from me... just regarded it as life and moved on. Of course a little while later I met just another girl which is the one I'm seeing right now... and still I have no sense of neediness towards her... yeah, I like her and I like spending time with her... but I don't need her to be happy... And I wasn't like that a year ago.