How to Stop Flaking - My Method (Input Appreciated)

[Mace]

(04-27-2012 03:01 PM)Mark Wrote:  What's bad is I don't really want to go on dates with girls that have to be convinced to go on a date with me. I'd rather just go find another woman who's excited to see me.

But perhaps that's a privileged position.

It's not that it doesn't work, it's more of a effort/reward thing, as well as a mindset thing. It falls back into the desperate chasing girls mindset, which ideally, we're here to get guys out of that mindset.

I think this thread and Mace's others are far more appropriate on a PUA forum, not here.

Mark, I know I'm awesome. The girl doesn't know that yet. The chase/woo the girl element is part of any boy-meets-girl seduction.

A girl who dates a guy via her social circle has known him for a significantly longer period. She has enough of a basis to form a judgement for him, and he's been "vetted" by her friends. Now if he texts her out, she's very likely to say yes if she likes him.

Now a stranger cold approaches you, chats you up for 10 minutes. For those 10 minutes you are charmed, and you give him your number. A day or two later he suddenly texts you out. Can you blame her for not being convinced of your awesomeness for those 10 minutes and investing in what could potentially be an awkward date?

Mark, if you've spent any significant time around <25 American girls, you know they throw words like "creepy" and "awkward" around like no tomorrow. They want to avoid awkwardness at all costs - and for many, an hour or two is too much to invest from a 10 minute interaction. That's why an element of comfort building - via text and phone - is a sound method of courtship.

If you're saying you can cold approach attractive young American college girls in America, chat them up for 10 minutes, text them to come out, and have them show up for a date 90% of the time (as you claimed in another post) I want you to tell us how it's done.