How to Stop Flaking - My Method (Input Appreciated)

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Quote:What do you do if you feel there is no connection?

If I am attracted to her and I've tried to flirt with her, connect with her, and it's not working at all, then it's not meant to be. Can't get every girl.

Quote:Would you say that you "gain attraction" through exhibiting the behaviours you talked about, or do you sort of just "cash in" on the women that are attracted to from the get go becuase you now are not afraid to make a move? (because you are comfortable with you´re sexuality)

Sometimes a girl is into you, but you don't make a move so you lose an opportunity. But that's definitely not all there is to it. Being assertive, vulnerable, confident, sexual, and so on is extremely important.

I can tell you from my own experience that if you act asexual and timid, then it's not simply that you don't cash in on opportunities... You can actually repell girls by being like that.

I used to be a shy Nice Guy, who couldn't show sexual interest if his life depended on it. Even though I was tall and attractive (which I found out much later. I had my first kiss at age 20, the second around my 22nd birthday..!) To illustrate how important the traits I mentioned are: One time on vacation, before I ever kissed a girl, my outgoing, supersocial friend tried to help me with girls. Me and my friend were walking with two girls, who we had been hanging out with that night.

He was doing anything he could to help me with those girls, basically being a good wingman. He spoke highly of me to the girls, and I know he meant every word. There was a clear opening... If one of the girls was even mildly interested in me, she had her chance. But you know what happened? The girls literally laughed out loud at the idea of doing anything with me. In their eyes, I was not a man. They were extremely disrespectful, basically laughing at me while I was right there in their presence, and they didn't care. Even though I was a tall, good looking, blond guy, which is all you need according to some.

The thing is, if you dare to be vulnerable, be assertive, express your sexuality, and so on, then you won't get every girl. But if you lack any masculinity and sexuality, if you are afraid to be a man, then you don't even show up on girls' radars. Then the idea of sex with you will feel incredibly awkward to girls, or even creep them out.