How to Stop Flaking - My Method (Input Appreciated)

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(04-13-2012 09:03 PM)baller08 Wrote:  When you talk to a woman, Mark, you no longer need tactics because you've absorbed them. The irony is in understanding them you no longer need it....but you still need to understand it. Look at the amount of books you've read. If it's truly random and there is no puzzle, none of us would read the books we do and study what we study.

This is the key point. Mark has already absorbed the tactics (how to approach, what to say, what not to say, how to show value, how to qualify, how to get her to invest, how to sexualize etc.) to the point where he's internalized it all to and reached a level of "unconscious competence".

You also have guys here who are 25 yr old virgins. You need to lay the foundation for these guys and build them up to a point where they achieve a degree of success - and confidence will build as a result. This will (hopefully) lead to self-actualization.

Even Mark had to start somewhere. I am surprised by how dogmatic he is about turning against the very tactics that brought him from a sexless kid to where he is today.