How to Stop Flaking - My Method (Input Appreciated)

[Halo Effect]

(04-13-2012 06:24 PM)Matt II Wrote:  I don´t use tactics or anything when hitting on women. I am just me, honest and to the point. I can go up to women in daytime and tell them they are cute or hot whilste smiling and being totally confident. I don´t say things to get women attracted to me, I just say things to express myself and to screen the girl. I still get a lot of flakes. Like many. What am I supposed to do? (Serious question)

I feel like it's about empathy. And connection. When I'm talking with a girl and she's not into me, I feel it. When I do make a connection with a girl, I feel that, too. Then it's like we're on the same team. There's no question of flaking. In stead, there's an understanding between us. We know we want to see each other, and so we will, and we will both put in effort to make that happen. (Or that's just my belief system and it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. But this is how I perceive it once I've clicked with a girl.)

I really think it's about empathizing and connecting. Feeling what she feels. Knowing what's happening in the interaction.

If I'd have to take a guess, I'd say the best way to "learn" this is by getting in touch with your own emotions. Empathy is basically knowing "if I were in his/her shoes, what would I feel?". That is impossible to know without knowing how you feel.