How to Stop Flaking - My Method (Input Appreciated)

[Mark]

What I say depends on the girl... I connect with them. I find out about their lives. I don't just say "where are you from? where do you go to school? Oh that's cool, I went to school in Boston but I prefer new York. Hey, can you cook?" By itself, that shit is meaningless... you might as well walk up to her and say, "Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah..."

I tell them stories about my brother, my cat, how I was scared of lightning when I was a kid, the time I got sick in India. I hear stories about their mother, their family vacation when they were a kid, the annoying things their roommates say. It changes every time because SHE changes every time. I could have one approach where we talk about nothing but American literature for 20 minutes. And then the very next one I could be making sarcastic jokes about her grandmother's pet cactus. It changes because the girl changes.

They're fucking people man. It's not a riddle or a algebra problem to be solved. They're people. Relate to them. Care about them. Play with them. You guys are so caught up on the right words, on figuring out some key or some equation, you're forgetting there's a fucking PERSON standing right in front of you the entire time. You are so disconnected from your emotions, if you would just listen to them, they would tell you everything you need to say or do. And no, not to get laid every time, but how to enjoy yourself and your interactions and connect with an amazing woman.

Not every girl I talk to is interested in me. If a girl shows little interest in talking to me, I eject very quickly. Sometimes girls don't want to have a personal conversation. That's fine, usually I eject and move on with my life. Sometimes girls just like talking to me, and aren't interested in dating me. That's fine too. I've made some great friends that way. Sometimes girls flake on me. Oh well... shit happens. But I don't measure or worry about crap like that. I worry about meeting and getting to know people who I find interesting and attractive. That's all I worry about. Because that's all I can control. I can't control what she thinks or how she feels or what she's going to do the next day when I call her. All I can control is my interest and my enjoyment and my intimacy, and so that's what I do. And it works. A lot. Dude, my texts are so fucking "bad" from a game perspective. But I don't care. It works. I'm happy.