(04-26-2012 02:28 PM)Jon Wrote: @ Crazyhorse. Yes but that is just wrong, in my opinion. Maybe it's different for some guys, but I am not good at noticing approach invitations. I will avoid approaching women who look like they are busy or preoccupied (on a cell phone, listening to music on earphones, doing something intently) but the reality is, there is a big area of "open" between actively inviting an approach and actively not wanting an approach. For instance, a woman who is browsing in a store isn't necessarily thinking, "oh i hope a guy approaches, let me give off signals" but she may very well be open to it. Also, the way you figure this out is trial and error. For instance - approaching women on the street in the business district on a weekday is much less likely to work than approaching women on a weekend in a residential neighborhood. This is common sense to an extent but its stuff you figure out through trial and error - where the women are, where they tend to be most receptive, etc. "Trial and error" amounts to cold approaching.
One of the arguments on his blog was about a research where they observed a group of pua's and afterwards interviewed them. These men all talked about how they choose to approach her and did x,y,z while in fact the researchers noticed that the women had already been sending signals towards them.
I mean, face it we all know that a women has already decided whether she'll like you even before you've opened her mouth.
I'm not saying his way of viewing things comes without error, but I still like the content of the article. I know guys who literally feel like they have to approach the entire time. It's ridiculous.
(04-26-2012 02:58 PM)Mace Wrote: I have a buddy who's short, skinny and Sri Lankan. There's nothing remotely physically attractive about him on sight. No girl will ever give him an "IOI" or an "approach invitation". White girls here generally avoid all eye contact with minority guys.
Yet has a strong, commanding presence. He's smooth. He has a deep voice. He knows how to lead the interaction. He knows how to make the girl her comfortable. He's completely disarming.
But girls would have never found this out if he never cold approached. He'd be stereotyped with all the other awkward, accented dudes from the subcontinent - because that's how he may appear on sight.
If he followed Aaron Sleazy's advice (look for signals before approaching) he would not be getting laid by numerous cute blonde college co-eds. Guaranteed
Didn't you say that you mostly hooked up with foreign girls? Let's say you find a place where there are a lot of foreign girls or you manage to find a way to spot these girls on your campus. Don't you think your succes rate would go up a lot? It doesn't mean that you can't hit on other girls, but this seem to be a pretty big demographic that's into you. So focus on that.
Aaron Sleazy - Cold Approach Pretty Much Useless
