(04-18-2012 06:35 PM)Warped Mindless Wrote: That seems to be a new trend now a days. Thinking that a woman knows instantly from the moment see sees you if shes attracted or not, and that you cant make her attracted if she showed no initial interest is just plain dumb.
Most women I've asked and been with told me they definitely know when it's not on and never going to happen. It takes about 8 seconds and they know if they're not at all interested or even repulsed by the guys approach. It's not just looks either, it's the whole appearance/status thing, how you come at them and in what situation. Some days her defences are up, or she's got too much stuff on her mind, and at other times she's more receptive. There are so many factors that weight in ... it's too complex to predict or even figure out. Sure, you can always plow and make a fool out of yourself for the minute percentage of women who are over defensive by nature and might warm up to you. But is that a productive way to spend your time? I wonder.
If you're smooth you can make women's acquaintance anywhere and everywhere. It happens, just far from always. The question is, what works best for you. I don't get this obsession of some guys about making daygame work. Running after girls in high street and asking about directions then relationship ship advice is weird dude, not to mention it's fake, imagine how that looks to a passerby. A lot of women will pick up on that... it's just like "huh, oh, I think he's hitting on me... but not properly, he must be insecure". If I get someone's attention, meaning the conversation has gone on for more than a minute I hit on them and make it apparent that that is what I'm doing.
Wait for a nice day, grab a book and a sandwich, and head to where the office girls have lunch, old steps around fountains on squares, business district parks/lawns etc. Read a funny book, smile, make eye contact. There's always new office girls having lunch by themselves. If you're younger, go clothes shopping at H&M or Zara, ask for fashion advice or cologne advice or whatever, that's genuine and a natural approach. Also many young women just go wasting time in shops and aren't in a hurry to go anywhere.
Getting someone's attention in the street, specially in big cities is hard. Ever try and get someone to notice they've lost something when they're on the phone or wearing headphones? It's weird situation. You have to be really fast, if a pretty girl passes you, you need to say hey right away and if they don't respond or turn around or slow down, that's it. There's about a 3 second window to do it. If for whatever reason you can't do that, then like I said go to where young women hang out during their lunch breaks. Hospital parks/grounds is another great place to be at. I've worked at big hospitals all my adult life and there's literally hundreds of young single women out there when the sun is out.
Whatever this guy is saying about cold approach, he's making a very obvious point that there are ways to make life easier (and that he's probably given up on cold approach).