Aaron Sleazy - Cold Approach Pretty Much Useless

[Tim]

My daygame approach? Go up to a girl, tell her I find her attractive and that I wanted to meet her. I would say this is the most pre-scripted part of my whole approach, because it's pretty much always going to be 'hi I thought you were cute and wanted to meet you' or 'hi, I know this is a bit random but I saw you there and had to come and tell you I think you're gorgeous'. That's ok though, because I never approach girls who aren't attractive to me, and who don't at least give me that little jolt of 'holy shit' that lets me know I want to meet them. So even though it's a 'line' I absolutely mean it.

From there I segue into normal conversation about whatever seems relevant. Usually it's something like 'so where were you going/what are you doing?' but sometimes there's something specific about her that strikes me as worth talking about. None of this is planned, it's just what I naturally feel a curiosity to ask her about.

After only a minute or two I can feel if it's worth continuing or not. If not, I say 'well it was lovely to meet you' and leave politely.

If it's worth it, I'm probably already engaged in conversation, not thinking about whether it's going well and I just keep talking. If I run out of conversation for a minute I just let the silence hang in the air, try not to get too nervous, and restart the conversation as best I can. Sometimes it doesn't work, oh well. If it does I wait until a moment which I think is appropriate to end things, and I ask for her number. Once I get it I usually continue the conversation for a bit longer, if it's coming naturally, or otherwise I tell her I'll text her and just leave.

I don't approach during the day that much, because I find my social circle introduces me to more compatible girls. When I do though, I'm looking for a girl who is having as much fun and is comfortable with me as I am with her. I often don't ask for phone numbers or ruthlessly try and squeeze every last bit of conversation out of the interaction. I just find the ones where things aren't forced, where talking to her is interesting, and where I naturally want things to continue.

All that's changed over time for me is that I'm able to deal with awkward silences more, to change the conversation better, and to shape the directions conversations take better. What brought about a much more significant change for me was meeting a lot of people and being able to relate to a wider range of people, to be less judgmental and more open-minded, and to be more firm with myself about the type of girls I'm really looking to date.

I get analytical about texting, where to have the date, etc when I'm not really into the girl. If I'm worrying about what to say to her or whether she's actually interested then I know that we're not really clicking.