RE: Juggernaut's journal/FRs
juggernaut92,
First off major respect for pounding the pavement and putting yourself out there. Experience is the best teacher!
Having said that, you should be doing day game with a game plan rather than approaching blindly. Otherwise, you'll just be wasting your time and you don't want to end up like that guy here with 500 approaches and 0 lays.
As a guy who runs day game, here are three suggestions:
1. Find girls who'd be most receptive to your approach.
If you've checked out most commerical day game videos, you'll notice they approach foreign girls overwhelmingly. Many of these foreign girls are on vacation or just new to the country without large established social circles. The tourist girls are just looking for adventure, and the new-to-the-country types don't have many friends and are somewhat lonely. These girls would be far more receptive to a day game cold approach than say the local party girl with 1000 Facebook friends - rest assured she already has 30 guys texting her, and why would she go out with you - a stranger - when she has access to several dozen "socially proofed" guys via her extended social circle.
So find out where the tourists hang out (TO is a big city) and check out if there are any language exchange program meetup groups for newcomers. As a local, you have higher social value, and many of these girls will be grateful to date a "native speaker" with whom they can improve their English. I had a buddy who signed up as a tutor for an English tutoring program at his university and he dated a lot of cute girls this way!
2. Find environments in which girls would be most receptive to cold approaches.
My fav is college campuses. Strap on a backpack and check out the York Glendon Campus - I dated a girl there once and it was 80%+ girls. In a closed environment where the girls outnumber the boys, a lot of girls are sleeping alone so you know they're hurting for action. Moreover, girls are far more open and friendly in a "closed" environment with similar-aged peers free of "randoms", "creepers" and "sketchballs". They fact you're assumed to attend the same school gives you instant social proof and an instant in (vs. the "random guy on the street/mall" effect). If they later ask say why you're there when you're not a student say you're meeting a friend. Moreover, at the end of the day girls need some way to rationalize going out with you (a stranger), and "I met him on campus" is more socially acceptable than "I met him on the street."
3. Go in with prepared conversation material.
Since you're new to the game, your cold approach skills are probably not strong enough to carry a conversation that leads to a romantic connection. I recommend you go in there with a game plan. If you've heard my audio, you'll notice that I start by stopping to ask for directions (the most socially acceptable way to start a conversation with a stranger), then transition to asking for relationship advice (this is a false disqualifier - he's in a relationship, so he must not be hitting on me - and girls love gossip). I segway into some DHV material, run some cold reads, mild kino, qualify, tell her a bit about myself, and number-close - all in <10 minutes. That stuff is all pre-rehearsed and pre-scripted, but it works! Remember, cold approach is extremely nuanced, and the slightest hint of creepiness and awkwardness will send her running. You need to come across as interesting enough for her to want to get to know you more. Of course, once you develop more confidence you can drop the canned material and vibe naturally.
These are my tips dude. I'm a day gamer as well and I know where you're going through. Game on bro - you'll get there!
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