Dating Advice Leading to Lack of Confidence

[Drewid]

(04-08-2012 07:30 PM)Mark Wrote:  The only thing you should be analyzing is yourself: How happy am I with my life? How awesome is my life? What could I be doing better in my life? Why am I not confident or not happy? What can I do to fix that? What would I like to do with my life that I'm not already doing? How honest am I with those around me? How satisfied am I with the people in my life?

This is insanely inspiring stuff. I've printed it out this section, and pinned them on my wall, because I want to be asking myself those questions EVERY DAY.

This is the post that has convinced me to join your site and try out your stuff. I've done PUA stuff on and off since I got into Ross Jeffries speed seduction stuff back in the late 90s. I bailed out when the Mystery method came in around 2001 and started turning everything into a game about scoring notches instead of genuine self-improvement, but kept an eye on what was going on as I had turned some friends onto it who ended up becoming a big part of the scene in the early/mid 2000s.

In that time I've gotten married, divorced, and just broke up with my 24/25 year-old girlfriend after an amazing year. I'm back in the dating world and my goal is still to improve *myself* and the quality of women in my life. For me approaches have always been a source of fear, and it's something I've been wanting to get over for a long long time.

But all the PUA stuff out there just seems complicated. Simpler than Jeffries maybe, but still full of obtuse systems for getting simple results.

I believe that conquering approach will improve my self-esteem greatly. And if it doesn't, then I'll at least I'll have learned that I have bigger hills to climb.