Mark Wrote:I have been ridiculously productive though.

Mark Wrote:I have to say, my sex drive in general has dropped the last few days. I wasn't abstaining from masturbating, but I've pretty much lost all interest in masturbating and don't have a whole lot of interest in sex.

I have been ridiculously productive though.

Tim Wrote:Ok, now that's got my attention. I have been looking for a productivity boost lately. Not just no more porn from now on; no more masturbation or fantasising either.

Halo Effect Wrote:For me, not masturbating has a big effect too. Possibly bigger than no porn, but I can't be sure about that (I usually do both at the same time or none).

I'm really going crazy. My love for women is getting stronger and stronger. Sex doesn't fix it. Sex reduces my sex drive for like a day, but then it shoots back up. I don't feel a need to watch hard porn, but those websites with beautiful hot (almost) naked women (you see links to pics like that under Rob Judge's articles sometimes) make my insides do summersaults. I have for the most part managed to ignore or avoid those pictures though. Women in real life also have a very strong effect on me.. And I think my behavior is changing a bit. I just naturally hold eye contact. Even held eye contact and smiled at a girl, which would normally require a lot of courage for me..

Halo Effect Wrote:I just spent the better part of the last hour jerking off to Youtube videos of Brazilian butts and teenage girls dancing. Yep. No orgasm though, and no porn.

But time to install a porn blocker..

Mark Wrote:I have to say, my sex drive in general has dropped the last few days. I wasn't abstaining from masturbating, but I've pretty much lost all interest in masturbating and don't have a whole lot of interest in sex.

I have been ridiculously productive though.

crazyhorse Wrote:jerking off without orgasming is appearently even worse, due to the fact that the dopamine remains in your system (something like that). Anyways K9 is a free internet blocker and net nanny has a 14 day free trial period.

Enjoy

Halo Effect Wrote:Pff I didn't want to hear that! But I only saw mild stuff. Worst I saw were a few nipples.

I've installed K9. I let KeePass create a random password, so I don't know the password for K9, but I can get it if I log into KeePass, which is a bit of a hassle because I gave that a super long password. Hope this will do for now.

Mark Wrote:Yeah, I got a girl coming over tonight (same one from last week). She's hot. And good in bed. And I have little to no interest. Honestly, I'd rather stay up late and work on my websites, lol. I don't even remember the last time I masturbated. Like 3-4 days ago I think.

This is definitely starting to have some effect.

Edmond Dantès Wrote:@Mark: Sounds like a luxus problem to me

Failed yesterday with no masturbation (though I didn't use any pictures, phantasies, videos) and am feeling pretty bad about it, because I didn't make it. I failed now two times to reach Day 8 without masturbation. :/

Without porn am I more productive most of the time, but on some days, like today, I don't get anything done and that's just f***ing annoying... It isn't procrastination that blocks me, it's concentration problems, mood swings and a lack of motivation concerning my studies. This really sucks. Hope it gets better tomorrow.

I guess it's now day 14 without watching Porn or sexual explicit pictures.

Any helping words?

Alvar Wrote:It's ok to fail. Really.
I'm coming to the conclusion that the more I accept my failure - without using it as an excuse to give up - the easier time I have keeping myself in track.

Been without porn for over a month and as much time without masturbating. Last time I had sex was almost 4 weeks ago, gosh, I feel like climbing up the walls.

crazyhorse Wrote:lol 2-3 times a week that's nothing . I thaught about this last night. I remember when I was 10 or 12 years old, I was jacking off to a britney spears photograph and she was just wearing a short skirt. LOL, to me that was pornography. It even was a picture that I ripped out of a newspaper, so it couldn't be that erotic! Then later on I got insanely horny from watching bikini girls and then I moved to other stuff. I remember losing my erection sometimes when I was switching porn movies. Sometimes I could do that up to five times a day, especially if I found it hard to fall asleep.

But I knew something was wrong when my sexual anxiety started to increase. I remember girls grinding their asses on to me, and I didn't feel horny or the time in tenerife when a girl just grabbed my hand and placed it on her vagina when we were dancing. Damm it I could only get hard when they were naked and I was to insensitive to enjoy oral sex. SUCKS...

see somewhere there is a guy who's in the exact same situation as I was, but he's just clueless about it.



I'm still in the no-libido fase. I remember a girl just throwing herself at me and I didn't feel anything. LOL, after that I didn't went out for a week haha, cause I was so emberassed by it. But I've noticed that being around "real women" is so crucial for this reboot. Actually I'm really happy with how my perception is subtly changing. I love women more and I love the interaction a whole lot more.



good job! The reason why a lot of men experience "no libido" after not watching porn, is because porn makes you're dopamine receptors far less sensitive to "real life stiumation" such as an interaction with a cute girl, a date with a girl etc... I mean porn is designed to do that.

it also got me thinking how in the seventies porn was a pin-up picture of a girl, now porn is something totally different. A lot of men who are heavily hooked on porn even go as far as watching gay porn or extreme fetish porn.

I taugth Brian was also going to joing us, so far he's lurking from the dark LOL

FirstAidKit Wrote:I'd be interested to know how 'written' porn checks in with this... (female btw)

I don't often watch visual porn cause I find it hard to find stuff I like, bar a few videos I tend to come back to. I've been pretty entirely without internet for about 10 weeks and have had to rely on imagination to get off and while it first it was almost impossible, when I got the hang of it I would come much much harder.

I've found in the past though that the more I masturbate, the higher my sex drive gets.. and vice versa. It's kindof interesting to see how it plays out for the different sexes.

Edmond Dantès Wrote:@crazyhorse: Thanks a lot for the tip with the withdrawal symptoms, it helped me realising that my withdrawal symptoms totally kicked in.

Am trying now to distract myself with doing a lot of things for my studies and some other personal goals. I hope this strategy works out and that the productivity makes it easier for me to keep going.

@Alvar & Halo Effect: Thanks for the support, I appreciate your kind words.

PS: Still got my deep voice, fuck yeah

luda Wrote:I officially join this challenge. Today is Day1 for me and I think this challenge will have a lot of benefits for me. Now all I have to do is be disciplined to avoid porn. This is going to be hard

Alvar Wrote:Last night was out and some lady, from one of these christmas company parties, was very interested. She was surely over 50 and for some seconds a few thoughs, that shall remain undisclosed, were spinning in my head.
Been having pretty irregular sleeping patterns: one week ago I was going to bed after 7 am. But I had the flu, too. Today woke up after 4 hours and haven't gone back to sleep. Not sure if it is related.