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RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - seele - 06-07-2012 09:54 PM
Day 4 for me today.
I can really understand Brandnew feeling. I usually want to fap after I get rejected by a girl. Maybe this is one of the important things, that one should take rejection like a man, rather than go for fapping.
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - questra - 06-08-2012 04:30 PM
Tobias - if you scroll up to some of crazyhorse's earlier posts he does recommend a good porn blocker
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Brandnew - 06-08-2012 06:33 PM
To bad I fapped like 5 time last night, mostly to GIFs at popular website that my GF told me about, though she know aabout my problem, but I'll take the responsibility for it.
Though I don't feel sick or depressed there is definately pric I'm paying for it apart from withdrawal - my balls. There is huge party in my city with girls from other countries and I'm just watching footbal match with my mom and eating peanuts. Well, I never gave a jacksh about sports, but I used to care about girls, and now I have no motivation to pursue them or whatsoever. I need to stop it with masturbation altogether to get my balls back. It's probably the sme when my stomach is full I don't want to it, and the opposite here.
And one more thing, about rewiring. Though it's kinda ashaming for me, but it's totally not my fault. I was coming home by a night bus, and there was increadible amount of people in the bus, so basicly people where compressed into each other. Lucky me I was jammed kinda like spooning into some nice girl, and my little buddy responded to it. Hooray for natural reinforcment! Though I feel kina like some pervert, but it's no my faoult, and honestly I enjoyed it.
Lets hope I'll stay away from porn for w while. It's preventing me from what I really want - a relationship with a pretty girl!
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Brandnew - 06-09-2012 08:42 PM
Well, Today even though I have 2 different weblocks I spent may day downloading brazilian playboys and playing with myself. I should try to bypass ladies pants, not the webblocks! Not mentioning that last night I got titty-frenzy and shot more goals in front of computer that were shot in Euro 2012 so far... Instead of talking to greek girls...
So I guess I'm powerless against porn and smarter than webblocks. Thats why I decided to shut down this terminator and just took my computer to my parents place. Then I will cancel the internet service. I believe thats the only way I can defeat Skynet so far. The casualities: 5 orgasms yesterday, 3 Today, 13 in last seven days. I know that I had my last calss Today and that was stressful, but I need to take the responsibility and cut out the possibility of relapse.
And one more thing - internet, like google and facebook is the source of instant gratification for me - I think I was escaping bad feeling and withdrawal. No more.
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Nick - 06-10-2012 12:53 PM
I had my first wet dream yesterday, and what a dream
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - crazyhorse - 06-10-2012 01:16 PM
(06-08-2012 06:33 PM)Brandnew Wrote: To bad I fapped like 5 time last night, mostly to GIFs at popular website that my GF told me about, though she know aabout my problem, but I'll take the responsibility for it.
haha, if you meet that girl enough she'll start nicknaming you. Oh no here comes "bonerbus boy" haha.
trust me we've all been there. I used to be very heavy in this stuff, with time this will get easier though. Is there something you can do to prevent a further relapse? Perhaps block a website? Restrict internet time? These can be very helpfull in the beginning.
(06-09-2012 08:42 PM)Brandnew Wrote: Well, Today even though I have 2 different weblocks I spent may day downloading brazilian playboys and playing with myself. I should try to bypass ladies pants, not the webblocks! Not mentioning that last night I got titty-frenzy and shot more goals in front of computer that were shot in Euro 2012 so far... Instead of talking to greek girls...
We'll you're definetly not a quitter that's for sure! Your story sounds so similar to mine, it's really unbelievable. I also used to belong to the 10-15 orgasms a week crew. So whenever I hear people state "oh man my sex drive is so high I have to wack off at leat 3 times a week", I always have to think "oh really?", haha. Keep in mind that a lot of what you're experiencing now is addiction and not really libido.
The computer thing is probably a very smart move. You can always go to public spaces to check email. But I'm going to warn you, these cravings will still get very strong. Wat you did now is a good step, since it can help you to deal with these cravings, but they will pop up. So be on the lookout for them.
But you're definetly doing great, you'll find out that it will relax you a lot.
I never had a dream , haha
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Brandnew - 06-12-2012 05:15 PM
It's a day 3, and craving are really hard, I'd say 8/10. I'll be honest with you, if I had computer wothout blocks I'd probably be fapping right now. I know perfectly even scenes I'd watch, so I'm glad there is no computer like that, though I'm considering lot of options. I'denjoyed it, and I would be castrated after it. As I mentioned before I think that porn is cutting off my balls, and I'm behaving like a girl after that. On my dance classes I'm not leading, I'm being led by girls. I'm shy and I have no initiative towards girls. So I will prevail, and I will pass delight of intener brazilian porn in lieu of some offline sex in the future. And I'm still dead set on cutting off media from my house, my computer is still at my moms home and I will bring it back to my place when there will be no internet.
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Trickster - 06-12-2012 06:00 PM
I really can't believe I've made it this far, honestly. And while the first 3 or so weeks, my libido was pretty erratic, now it's consistently high. My girlfriend totally digs my unabashed horn dog tendencies, and the sex has been great. I'm never going back.
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Drewid - 06-12-2012 06:56 PM
I'm realizing that one big value of doing this is that masturbation is now no longer a convenient way to avoid my issues around my own sexual feelings.
Now I have to actually be horny and deal with it from time, instead of just shutting it down right away, and that seems to actually help when I'm dealing with attractive women face to face, and other situations.
It's more of a general feeling rather than a call to "action".
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Thor - 06-12-2012 08:11 PM
So far ten days and no masturbation. Get solid wood every single morning especially as I workout on weights plus I am taking creatine and maca which makes my wood even harder :-)
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Zelazny - 06-12-2012 10:04 PM
This has been day 6 without porn and masturbation again, this time, my days were filled with events, people, fun, sports, work and so many things that the thought of (or even the time for) masturbation just never came up. I do notice I'm flirting more and more, with avenues of flirtation opening up with more and more girls.
Three dates in the coming week, with girls I'm interested with. Actually got a boner just looking into the eyes of a cute girl I'm interested in.
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - crazyhorse - 06-14-2012 09:57 AM
(06-12-2012 06:56 PM)Drewid Wrote: I'm realizing that one big value of doing this is that masturbation is now no longer a convenient way to avoid my issues around my own sexual feelings.
What you'll notice after a while is that "feeling horny" will no longer be linked to "oh I have to rub one out". This is a pretty good feeling. I' now on day 16 of no PMO. But I've had more then one of these trials haha.
(06-12-2012 08:11 PM)Thor Wrote: So far ten days and no masturbation. Get solid wood every single morning especially as I workout on weights plus I am taking creatine and maca which makes my wood even harder :-)
When I was a heavy porn addict I didn't even get morning wood. That really started to scare me. Everytime I did get morning wood, was a day when I hadn't watched porn. I always wondered why I felt so awesome on these days, well everything got explained to me when I stopped using porn for good. During the first week I woke up three times a night, everytime with morning wood. So that good feeling that I referred to had basically been withdrawal all the time .
(06-12-2012 10:04 PM)Zelazny Wrote: This has been day 6 without porn and masturbation again, this time, my days were filled with events, people, fun, sports, work and so many things that the thought of (or even the time for) masturbation just never came up. I do notice I'm flirting more and more, with avenues of flirtation opening up with more and more girls.
Yeah doing other activities is the best way to get through this. If you're counting days the entire time, you're basically looking at the "marshmallow" (see marshmallow experiment).
you're doing great! Definetly date as much as you can!
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Alvar - 06-14-2012 11:02 PM
"he could have had any woman in the world, but none can match the beauty of his own hands...."
I just had to post the clip... One of the best scenes from Seinfeld.
It's been some 8 months since I stopped watching porn, few relapses in between, last one more than 3 months ago. I went weeks without masturbation but still had the option to do it once a week. A few weeks ago I decided to cut off my fantasying while masturbating and, at first, it was hard getting the job done focusing only on my own pleasure and thinking only of the girls I know of (iirc this approach was advocated in "No More Mr. Nice Guy"). Eventually I started getting more pleasure out of it.
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Paradox - 06-16-2012 04:39 PM
Hello all, I've been addicted for some time to pornography and masturbation, especially since my decision to focus on my financial life, which necessitated going to night clubs and dates far less.
So Day 1 Begins.
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Zelazny - 06-17-2012 11:50 AM
Again, it's all very easy while I keep myself occupied. Idle hands.
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - freiheitlich - 06-18-2012 05:42 PM
On Saturday Night I masturbate, Today on Monday I have minimal sexual desire.
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Warwick - 06-20-2012 01:16 PM
I fell off the wagon recently during a stressful period when I was fighting with my girlfriend. The more I understand what porn does for me and why and when I turn to it for "comfort," the more I wish that I'd figured all of this out ten or 15 years ago.
Starting over. Goal is 60 days without porn or masturbation. (Just a little note for myself: No porn means NO PORN, not even glancing at pictures or a quick video.)
6/18/12 - Day 1 complete
6/19/12 - Day 2 complete
6/20/12 - Day 3 complete
6/21/12 - Day 4 complete
6/22/12 - Day 5 complete
6/23/12 - Fell off the wagon tonight. My girlfriend is away right now and I've been horny as hell. After a night out at the bars, I came home and watched some Skinemax; not full porn, but I count it as such for these purposes. Masturbated a bit, but had the final restraint to stop before I reached orgasm. In terms of what I'm going for with this experiment, tonight was a step backward. I want to start the count over again, starting with tomorrow.
6/24/12 - Day 1 complete.
6/25/12 - Day 2 complete. Girlfriend's been off traveling for two weeks now, and I've been horny as hell, especially without masturbating at all. Will power, gonna push through.
6/26/12 - Day 3 complete.
6/27/12 - Day 4 complete.
6/28/12 - Day 5 complete.
6/29/12 - Day 6 complete.
6/30/12 - Day 7 complete.
7/1/12 - Day 8 complete. Had an incredibly strong urge to watch porn tonight. I've set up Google SafeSearch on my laptop, so I can't quickly search for a video or picture, which is good. But I even had the urge tonight to look up YouTube videos that would have T&A in them, just to satisfy the craving. Messed up, but I stopped quickly before I started masturbating.
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Trezza - 06-20-2012 11:05 PM
I'm up for this. I watch too much porn and know that it affects me. I haven't watched porn for a day, and I am also going to limit spanking the monkey to 1-2 times a week. I know it is going to be tough but I need to do for myself!
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Mitch - 06-21-2012 03:15 AM
So I haven't read through all 27 pages of this topic, but I'm gonna try this out. I definitely watch too much porn and it is detrimental to my sex life. Do people still masturbate occasionally without porn? Anybody have any suggestions on what to do when you get the urge to watch porn?
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Zelazny - 06-21-2012 09:16 AM
Basically : Do something else. As long as you're occupied, there is no need. Been occupied with studies and love lately, so I've haven't had the chance to do it.
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - wavering_radiant - 06-22-2012 01:41 AM
I would like to start the 60 day challenge. I've been trying for the past couple of weeks to go porn/masturbation free, and I can seem to go 3-4 days alright, but after that I cave. I'll let tomorrow be day 1/60 of being porn free, and I'm going to try to keep the fapping down to 1-2 times a week.
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Zelazny - 06-22-2012 09:17 AM
I've gotten to the point where I masturbate about once a week, and the last times, it was without any use of porn. Just memories. Not quite 'free' of masturbating, but I seem to have rid myself of porn. Yay
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Nick - 06-23-2012 12:28 PM
Day 34. I'm slowly approaching my goal date, one day at a time. It gets much easier after day 20something.
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Dragus - 06-23-2012 03:01 PM
After 8 years of denial, thinking that it's all good and that I'll be fine, I think I am slowly reaching the realisation that I am far from fine.
I am 26 years old and has been hooked on porn since I was 18.
None of my family members or close friends have any idea.
The problem all started when I first moved out of home 8 years ago to live by myself.
Since then, porn is pretty much a daily activity for me.
I lost count on the number of times I lost an entire night worth of sleep to satisfy my porn hunger.
My sleep cycles are really f***ed up because of it, which can't be good for my health in the long run.
I am very social and friendly by nature, yet paradoxically I have issue with people (both guys and girls) getting too close with me.
I've never been in any relationships in my life.
Yup, still a virgin; a decision I made by choice years ago coz I grew up in a highly religious community. Though in the past few years I no longer consider myself religious and has no real reason to be so other than just personal issues.
Earlier in the year, I got desperate enough to explain my existence as a man that I ended up calling a "masseuse" a few times for some "service". I could not get hard of course.
For those who are considering doing the same thing for the same reason, I advice you not to. They cost a lot and you feel like you've been reduced to s*** afterwards.
I've been attracted to a few women in the past, but never dared to make the move because of fear that they might found out about my addiction(s) and won't be able to accept it.
Having an addictive personality in general, I have a number of other addictions which I had struggled with, most of which tend to belong to the "virtual" realm.
In addition to porn, I have in the past suffered from getting hooked on computer games, movies, TV shows, online chat (MSN messenger and the like).
No I'm not talking about just your typical spending a few hours here and there watching TV or chatting. I'm talking more like spending 36 hours marathon of watching TV-series or playing games, often with very little food. You know how you hear of people that die from games-marathon? Well, I'm one such potential victim.
I think I've managed to deal with all these other addictions quite well, e.g. stopped online chat 6 years ago, games a year ago and TV-series a few months ago. Cold turkey works best for me.
With porn I feel that it is a bit different though, because it is more than just "being bored", but there's a bodily need for release in general; which as most guys for me is met by MB-ing to porn (since sex isn't exactly available to me)
So, I acknowledge that while I should be quite satisfied with my progress in dealing with other addictions, porn addiction is a much tougher beast.
To top it all off, I am also a well known workaholic (I do work quite a lot, though I love what I do. For that reason, most people believe that I spend majority of my time working, which is why they don't question if I have any other "extracurricular activities")
I know that things cannot continue on like this and I need to change.
As much as I would like to be optimistic about it, I have failed in the past 8 years and I'm honestly not sure if change is to come. But one cannot blame me for trying to change.
Personally aiming for no porn, but still allowing for MB. I have tried quitting MB cold turkey for a lot of times in the past, but found the combination of no MB and no porn too much of a combination to handle.
That's me. Last time I succumbed to porn was last night (was up surfing the net until 6AM).
I know I paint a rather bleak picture about myself or my life in this post.
In actuality, it's not all that bleak. I am healthy, studying / working and remain socially active. I do quite well at both my study / work.
It's just that this porn business (and my other addictions) has been a bane of my life and I know that I will be much better off without it.
Sorry for the lengthy post.
Will keep you guys posted. (installing K9 as we speak).
RE: The No-More-Porn Thread - Dragus - 06-24-2012 01:39 PM
Checking in at the end of Day 2. Happy to say that I'm still going strong.
It's crazy to realize how easy it is to fall back to the trap though. Had a few of such encounters today, but just told myself that it's not worth it. Went to the gym and hit the bench hard instead!
Just after my post yesterday, I felt deeply saddened by all these lost relationships with people I care about because of all my addictions. Lesson learned I guess.
Is it just me, or is it ironic that we live in a culture where practically all guys view porn on a regular basis, yet it's shameful to talk about being addicted to it?
I'm not used to posting on forums, especially regarding personal stuffs. But it feels good knowing that I have a few hundred people I'm accountable to. That's some motivations (suddenly have an image of 300 people following me everywhere and cheering me on. Kinda creepy and cool at the same time).