SeXyBaCk Wrote:This thread made me smile quite a bit. Makes interesting reading, particularly the motivational parts. No way would or could i practically join in. But keep it up i guess... or down. Though I don't see a necessity for going 'cold turkey'. Limiting porn viewing and masturbation to say one a week/every 3 days feels more reasonable to me.

SeXyBaCk Wrote:In regard to erectile dysfunction ... you have to differ from physical causes and mental. Clearly the connection between pornography consumption and not getting it up with a real girl in the flesh would be a mental blockade of sort. I doubt there's been any kind of research, definitely not medical, possibly psychological, I can try searching the databases for it. If it's a head thing clearly the more you worry about and ponder on it the worse it'll become. Without speaking with any kind of authority, relaxation feels like the plausible key here.

However if you suffer from high/low bloodpressure, bloodsugar, heart disease, thyroid conditions any of those and many more can cause erectile dysfunction and you should consult a specialist.

Wow 17 days is... I'm sure I haven't gone 7 days without since the age of probably 10. Even being holed up with various prospective in laws on vacation and stuff. I'm really getting curious about this since I feel a lack of ambition for pretty much any activity bar sex during winter months. If I could practically partake i would. Knowing myself though I get incredibly pissy and frustrated when not being sexually active. I pick fights and act like a total bitch.

Coming away from hardcore porn though can only be a good thing. It's not real, and it's not life. Of course that doesn't make treating yourself to some really sleazy porn every now and then wrong. As for self motivation, I've found yelling and cussing at myself to be effective for me. And snacks... don't buy them. Eventually you'll come back, treat yourself to one and they'll be okay, but just way too sweet.

TheAnimal Wrote:Hello guys,
Well, I'm from Germany so my English ist not as good as yours. My Question is: could you train your discipline in this case ? Because my record was 5 days without jerking off. After this it was even harder to keep up again ( 5 days in a row got harder ). So I thougt I began with only 1day not jerking off and doing this one week than 2 days not jerking off etc.
Normally this step-by-step method should work for all areas in life. But only in this case i always fail.
Does anyone have any ideas why it is that hard for me?

TheAnimal Wrote:Normally this step-by-step method should work for all areas in life. But only in this case i always fail.
Does anyone have any ideas why it is that hard for me?

SeXyBaCk Wrote:Interesting link Crazyhorse, thanks, I'm browsing it now. I wasn't aware this was a widespread problem.

I was wrong saying it wasn't a physical problem, clearly there are measurable physical effects of porn addiction. What I was trying to say was that it's not something a pill or surgery can fix (unlike with other forms of ED). You have to untrain your brain to overcome this one.

I'm looking for the criterias of porn addiction now. Since you're rebooting yourself and doing the steps did you consider yourself to be addicted to porn?

I don't think my porn consumption is excessive, but while I'm searching for the definition I'm wondering. Am I correct in assuming you'd have to watch a lot of pornography for considerable time until your body starts to not react how it should to women/the sex you're attracted to? I've not noticed any negative effects of porn on my love life... at least that I've noticed, apart from the obvious idea-input that is porn.

I'm on day 3 now, going to do this as long as my girlfriend is away, I even announced it while declining to talk dirty on the phone. Hands off the dick. Really curious if it affects my motivation in any way, naturally I am doubtful. I don't have real motivational issues, I still get up for work every day at 6 am and get all the stuff done I plan on doing, but I find myself frequently fantasizing about just being able to do nothing, spend the day in bed and not having to show up. I feel there's room for attitude improvement.

TheAnimal Wrote:Okay thank you guys.
@Halo Effect : But isn't it much harder to stay disciplined, if I'm giving me even less freedom? Do you also do it like this? If yes, how much time does it need till you really see almost any girl as ´hot´ ? Because acutally this is my aim. In my case ( not ejaculating but masturbating) I needed 5-6 days.

Halo Effect Wrote:I also do no masturbation.

I've done it both with very strict rules and with less strict rules. The thing is that once you do stuff like jerking off to pictures of hot clothed women, it's a very slippery slope and it's very easy to convince yourself to have an orgasm or go to more explicit material. If you can't do anything there is no slipperly slope. And you're only going for like a week. That's not too long.

I do not see almost any girl as hot. I do appreciate the beauty of many more girls and am horny much more often and crave much more for sex.

TheAnimal Wrote:Somehow I have other effects than in my earlier times when I tried to keep abstinance. I used to get really horn between 4-6 days , actually day 5 and 6 were extremely hard and exceptionally high libido.
But now, when I tried to forbid masturbation almost totally my libido goes to zero. I even don't have any sexual thoughts. I'm just surprised and kind of frightened why I'm getting horny much much harder.
Do you think this abstinence has a sense of use if my libido decrease after the first day I began?