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What it's like to be constantly approached! - Mike - 06-29-2012 08:48 PM
Last night helped me gain some insight on what a woman must go through when she's being approached and why she may reject men.
I went to a gay club last night with my gay friend. I'm not gay or bisexual, but I've never been to one before. Most people say I'm good-looking and I'm well-dressed so I pretty much got hit on like crazy the whole night.
At first it was a little flattering, but after awhile I seriously started to get irritated. I just wanted to be left alone or for some one start a conversation with me in a normal way rather than being weird like groping me, smelling me or just not being normal or calm at all. I'm not gay so ultimately I had to reject all of them, but it made me realize what some women must go through when they go out. I have some female friends who are very attractive women and they constantly get hit on in the same manner by guys being weird.
I think what you could take from this is to be more normal and relaxed when approaching women and cut out all the dumb shit like lingering and endlessly staring. Also, understand that if you get rejected, she may have to deal with that stuff all the time and may be annoyed to be approached.
Has anyone had a similar experience or understand what women go through like this?
RE: What it's like to be constantly approached! - IdEngager - 06-30-2012 04:51 AM
I've had quite a few experiences like this. I'm a pretty laid back, tolerant dude so I find a lot of comedic value in this, but there's been a few times where I've had to be like, "Sorry boys, you ain't touchin' this dick tonight!"
The most revealing are probably the times I've been straight up propositioned. One time a gay friend of mine I was bowling with slapped his ass at me and went, "Hey, wanna try something new?" Or the time I was at a music festival smoking out and this guy was rubbing up against me trying to get me back in his room. Or the time a gay teammate of mine offered me a foot massage after a tournament and admitted that he loves Asian guys.
Honestly, I do appreciate the attention! It's not everyday someone compliments me, and it's probably a thousand times worse for hot girls (from hanging out with hot girl friends, it is). But you don't have to do something if you don't want to, and if you're secure in yourself, everything will be alright.
Also, gay bars pour the strongest drinks out there. Fact.
RE: What it's like to be constantly approached! - Tim - 06-30-2012 04:20 PM
Haha those sound like some entertaining propositions. They reminded me of the night I went out on the town with a gay friend of mine, going from bar to bar. At one point we weren't sure where to go next, and my friend turns to me and says "well, we could go to X bar up ahead, or if you'd like we can go down this alleyway?". I was slightly shocked at the time, but I appreciated the compliment and found it pretty amusing in hindsight. Didn't affect our friendship either.
RE: What it's like to be constantly approached! - Jean DeCuir - 06-30-2012 05:07 PM
I'm 19 years old. I barely shave yet and one year ago i used to walk in torn jeans and a waistcoat almost everyday. Seriously, if Justin Bieber was a brand i would be made in China lol
So last year i was on my way to the bathroom. This happent during day at a cafe. As i walk some dude walks by me, points at me, smiles and says "Boss!". It was flattering and i assumed he enjoyed my peculiar style. I reach the bathroom and start taking a piss. Suddenly the guys shows up... right behind me! He starts taking a piss in the urinal next to me. (Not) surpisingly he ends his piss at the same time as me. I proceed to wash my hands, acting normal, not really giving much of a shit and i already suspected that he wanted to pick me up or some shit. He washes his hands too on a sink next to me and says " You're cute". I just replied, "i know" trying not to be rude but raising my bitchshield lol. I walk out of the bathroom and he follows me asking me trivial shit. I just tryed to play it cool, i didn't want to reject him as i know how that can feels on a cold approach. He starts asking me stupid sexual shit like if i ever tryed it with a man, i told him " No, and i never will. I love women, i actually spend a fair amount of time approaching them, and this ends here. Nice to meet you, bro". He actually kept plowing, asking me for my number so we could " try to pick up women together". He noticed he would have no luck so he kept it low and asked me for my e-mail instead. lol, what a comedian. He then accepted i wasn't gay but sayd his good byes with " You have to try it with a man some day, dude! I promise is the best thing you'll ever experience in your life!"... he said it with such passion and such a bright in his eyes... lol... i tought i was on Punkd or reality tv or some shit lol
RE: What it's like to be constantly approached! - Mark - 06-30-2012 05:24 PM
Yup... being on the other end of the interaction is an eye-opening experience.