So the last 2 months I littrely have had 4 chanses with VERY HOT girls, 3 from my social circle and 1 from the club and somehow I fuck it all up in the last second. Girl at the club, this tall hot blond with big breats wanted me to go home with her, I came up with some bullshit excuse. Then this superhot brunette told me I was a "hottie" and wanted to hook up cause she hadnt had sex in 2 months due to some bullshit so she just wanted some none strings attached sex, I bailed. Then this other girl keeps texting me "handsome
" and shit and today she asked "so when can I come see your apartment?
" and I dont know what to do.
I think its cause of my insecurities about sex, I havent been with many girls in my life and the only long term relationship I had the sex wasnt that good, I cum too fast and sometimes I cant manage to keep it up cause of some insecurities. I think I have a small dick when I look down on it even tho Its about 7 inches.
Is there some kind of good sex-guide out there that could maybe boost my confidence in this area?
Don't worry about size. Average female vagina depth=4 inches. Average penis length=6 inches. Problem solved.
You could read Daniel Rose's 'Sex God Method'. I've heard a lot of good things about it, though never read it myself. Personally I got good at sex by googling and reading a shit load of sex articles, especially on askmen.com, and then trying stuff out with my first girlfriend.
If you have really bad sexual anxieties, I doubt that having one night stands is going to help much. You really need to find a girl you get along with well and trust, whether or not she's your girlfriend. You need to be able to talk about a problem when it comes up, and feel that she's going to understand and help you. Once you've found that then you should focus on giving her pleasure and enjoyment outside of sex, i.e. with good foreplay and fingering/giving her head. This will give you confidence that pleasing her isn't just about being able to get/keep it up or last a long time, but about being an assertive, thoughtful lover. And then if you do have issues during sex then you can rely on something else to make sure she enjoys it.
You probably think your dick is small because you compare it to penises in porn. (Because where else do you see erect penises?) Dicks in porn are extremely, abnormally large, or even fake. Seven inches is well above average. I'm about the same and I've been complimented on my dick plenty of times.
Also, almost all women would be in serious pain if they had sex with a man who had a porn-sized penis, I promise you. I asked an ex-girlfriend about penis size and she said "To be honest, I wouldn't mind if my next boyfriend is just a little bit smaller," because it hurt her sometimes when we had sex.
Besides, sex is not really about your body and all about right beliefs and knowledge. Check out stuff by Daniel Rose (Sex God Method) and David Shade if you're serious about improving in bed. The standard sex advice is usually either random techniques or positions or "communicate better". Daniel Rose and David Shade go to a whole other level with their advice, and the standard sex advice is useless compared to theirs IMO.