Went to a bar last night and talked to about five women.
The first one was standing outside on her own. She avoided making eye contact so I moved on.
Talked to two girls who saw me talking to the first girl. Didn't really escalate the conversation so it died.
Talked to another girl briefly who was cute but she had to go inside.
Talked to another group of two girls but they were not having it.
Talked to some drunk chick about football. She was the hottest and I talked to her the longest but I did not seal the deal.
Finally, I talked to some girl inside. She was not that hot. Either way, she did not respond.
I am not in a great place right now for reasons I should not talk about so that might be the reason I am not getting a good response.
But at least none of the girls said anything rude and I am still getting out there so that is a good thing.
It's a good experience regardless. If you are not in a good place right now, that will shine through and the women will pick up on it. Try and focus more on being happy and having fun yourself and the women will follow. It's very obvious when a guy is on the hunt for women. When I'm out alone, I like to just grab a drink at the bar, talk to the bartenders, text friends once in a while and talk to all of the cute women that happen to order a drink right beside me even when there is plenty of bar space elsewhere. Good luck.
Yeah, that is what I usually do too. I have always found that I do best when I am having fun. But I have not had fun in a little while. I can fake it, but women can see right through that.
I figure that the more I go out, the better I will feel. At least, by putting in some effort I know that I am doing something.
It's not good if it's forced. Don't make meeting women a chore. My advice: Do whatever you enjoy doing (ex. catching a game at a bar with your friends) and if there so happens to be a beautiful girl in the area, talk to her. You're not really going out of your way to approach her. She just so happened to be in your vicinity. Just live your life as you normally would and be attentive to any opportunity that presents itself.
Fantastic Creatine now make it a habit to chat to girls on a regular basis. Push yourself to talk to girls in all aspects of your life.
Yeah, I talked to a really hot girl yesterday but could not keep the conversation flowing.
Talked to some other pretty girl at a party who knew me and put her arm around me but did not escalate.
Talked to another pretty girl who seemed into me but at that time, I was already pretty drunk. I should have gotten her number, but I am leaving pretty soon so I decided not to.
Might have a date with a girl off the internet but that is not 100% yet.
Right now, I am just trying to make it a point to talk to attractive girls whenever I can. Once I get comfortable with that, I will start expressing my sexuality more.
This is excellent mate. The more girls you talk to you increase your chances of getting dates, getting laid etc.
Something that works for me is after you have been tongue tied with a girl. When you get back home. Sit down take a few deep breaths close your eyes and relax. Then relive the moment you were talking to the girl and when you get to the point you were tongue tied think about what you would have said next.
Rewind the moment in your mind a few times and think of things you could have said to keep the conversation going. Next time you are talking to a girl you will beable to continue the chat alittle longer.
That is good advice. What is weird, is that once in a while, I find a girl who I really click with and the conversation just flows effortlessly. It is one of the most wonderful and natural feelings you can have. And granted, the connection does not always last forever but it is great when it happens!
I know where your coming from. I totally clicked with the slovakian girl I met in the bar back in Slovakia. The conversation totally flowed like I didnt have to think about what I had to say next. Same with the russian girl I met here in London. What I have been practicing over the last couple of days if I do get tongue tied I just gaze into the girls eyes and stay silent. She usually restarts the conversation.
(05-27-2012 08:43 PM)Creatine Dreams Wrote: [ -> ]That is good advice. What is weird, is that once in a while, I find a girl who I really click with and the conversation just flows effortlessly. It is one of the most wonderful and natural feelings you can have. And granted, the connection does not always last forever but it is great when it happens!
Another good piece of advice!
And now I am going over to my friend's place to bbq. Maybe I will be able to run some "social circle" game haha. If there are women there!
No women at the bbq.
So I went out on my own to a couple of bars.
No women at the first bar so I went to the second bar.
Saw a couple of loud, Jersey Shore type girls, but they were with dudes. Talked to the girls for a second but the blond one had a bad attitude.
No luck last night, but you gotta take what the Universe gives you!
(05-28-2012 10:23 PM)Creatine Dreams Wrote: [ -> ]No luck last night, but you gotta take what the Universe gives you!
No you don't.
(05-28-2012 10:28 PM)Chaos Wrote: [ -> ] (05-28-2012 10:23 PM)Creatine Dreams Wrote: [ -> ]No luck last night, but you gotta take what the Universe gives you!
No you don't.
Well, if there were no girls to hit on at the bars I went to, what am I supposed to do?
Just kidding, I didn't like the general tone of the phrase... I don't believe in accepting fate. But yeah, sometimes (very few times by the way) there're not suitable girls to hit on.
Yeah, last night it was completely dead in both bars. Still, I had a couple of drinks and chatted with some dudes so the night was not a complete wash.
Oh well, gonna meet a friend in a little while for drinks so I will see where the night takes me!
Creatine have you considered talking to girls in other walks of life other then bars ?.
I swear every time I scroll past this topic, I read it as "Went out and hit some women tonight", and I think, "Whoa, slow down Ike!"
^Haha!
@Thor. Yeah, sometimes I talk to women at the supermarket. And once in a while at the gym.
Nice keep it up mate
(05-29-2012 05:32 PM)Creatine Dreams Wrote: [ -> ]^Haha!
@Thor. Yeah, sometimes I talk to women at the supermarket. And once in a while at the gym.