coolth's journal

[coolth]

get ready for either a long post or barrage of short posts:

So last friday night my officemate and I decided to chill out for a few drinks and do some womanizing. So after consuming a couple of beers (for confidence to my friend) we head out to some club I havent been on. The club is famous for its barely legal patrons. >

It was a nice feeling as I stepped again inside the club for I think its been a month since. The smell of smoke, the loud bass music, the eyecandies. I had this insatiable desire to fXcking approach because of 3 factors:

1. its been a month since I did night club game
2. I felt this pressure that I must live up to my reputation to my wing
3. Liberated girls are plentiful in a club as opposed to conservative girls during daygame

And so with the mindset that "Im just looking for the type of girls that I will enjoy and not the boring ones (by boring meaning rude, turns back, etc)"

and so,

approach 26: 2 set all girls

These girls look like the snobbish types keeping just to themselves. But one girls is really hot i will be fooling myself if I dont approach so I opened with
"Hey are you guys teachers?"

I guess the hot one didnt like my opener because she told me to shut up. In which I just stepped backwards and told my buddy that "wow the girl just told me to shut up!" And then continued to search for prey.

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I didnt know that being blown out like that is effective in removing the effects of alcohol because after that I even felt energized. This is probably what 60 is talking about being the social god mode.

approach 27: 2 girls at bar, 1 girl being gamed and 1 girl being gamed but obviously girl is not enjoying

Would have approached like rob's chode blowout but chickened out and just waited for guy to go to restroom...

as soon as guy leaves

Me: (touches arms to let girl face me) Excucse me, you look like (name of celebrity)

Girl introduced herself. Some fluff talk which eventually ended rather abruptly becasue my mind still goes to blank. The girls steps away from convo and talks to other friend. I just step back myself and act as if I didnt approach her.

At this point of time I realized that one of the reasons why men have approach anxiety is due to lack of knowledge how to handle rejection. So in this case I just stepped backwards and simply went back to just chillin like fXcking nothing happened and we were like strangers again! XD Its also helpful that we label the girl as boring and no fun so we are like thankful convo ended.

because I think I failed by going blank, I thought of things I could have done so I remembered cold reading and storytelling from jump off points. Then I remembered my own convo structure (getting to know each other, push, pull, togetherness)

approach 28: 2 sets all girls seated at bar

the girls have similar outfit so I opened with "Do you guys work here?"

the girls laugh and I bantered with the two of them...after some fluff, a guy friend of theirs entered with a scowl look in face..I didnt acknowledge..However when I was successfully gaming my target, the other friends noticed I was applying the moves in which they told the girls they are now leaving and so my girl and I had to depart

So in conclusion, warm up sets do work. So I think we must approach the hotter looking ones after like being rejected a couple of times. And be thankful of nasty rejections because they are such adrenaline boosters!

[coolth]

did some warm ups yesterday..im still struggling with girls walking towards the opposite direction in the street. I feel weird when I have to ask for directions to women who have gone past me when normally people do it on the side. So I thought of ways how to handle this hard logistics. I thought of instead of walking past the girl, when I see her I will immediately turn around so that we would be walking in the same direction. Then I would slow down my pace so that the girl with catch up with me and maybe just a little bit ahead. Then I'll just increase my pace then open from the side while still walking a little bit more so that I end up blocking her path with the hand stopping gesture (credit from yosha).

Did a couple of these asking directions and it was pretty well.

approach 29: girl standing outside bookstore
At this point going direct in the street with lots of people so I decided to back down a bit and open with semi direct opener. So I spot a girl outside a bookstore looking like she's waiting for somebody. So I opened with

Me: Excuse me, do you know a petshop nearby? (credit rooshv)
girl: Petshop?! Sorry no. (smiling)
Me: ok thanks (then walk a bit), actually I just said that so I can talk to you
Girl: (surprised smile)
Me: What's your name?
Girl: (head refuses)
Me: Oh ok see ya! (then immediately enters bookstore)

Haha if anyone watched the whole interaction he would probably laugh his ass off! XD

I learned that I shouldnt have asked her name. I should have introduced myself then get her name on the process. Because it would be harder for her to reject when I have already introduced myself.

[Jack Sparrow]

Hey good job coolth!

I think an approach journal is one of the most useful tool for getting good at picking up women. I decided I am gonna stop wasting time with other mental masturbation post. Instead, I would like to give feed back and encouragement on other guy's approach journal.

One thing I would suggest is really, really, really think hard about what your goal is. What do you really want to accomplish out of all these approaches?

For me it is to integrate meeting women into my daily life, my lifestyle, and to be able to meet/date/sex with attractive women at a regular basis.

Begin with the end in mind.


Also, at the end of each posting, take that 5 extra minute just to summarize what you've done, what conclusions you have made. This will keep you from doing the same thing over and over again. I notice in myself, and in other journals, many guys just keep doing the same sh-t, and never improve.

Good luck!

P.S. Also make it as readable for others as possible. Not that you have to, but if other people enjoy reading your journal, they will give you feedback, and you won't feel so alone in your journey.

[coolth]

Yeah basically I want to have the ability to approach women at will.

Haha I'll try to take note of the readability thing. Thanks man!

[coolth]

approach 30: girl next door

Its actually a warm approach since we see each other in the neighborhood. So I just open by asking her if she is the granddaughter of a man I really do know. Did some banter and then of course number close.

[Jack Sparrow]

(09-10-2012 04:38 AM)coolth Wrote:  Yeah basically I want to have the ability to approach women at will.

Haha I'll try to take note of the readability thing. Thanks man!

Just play devil's advocate. Do you really want to be able to approach women at will? Is that your goal? Are you sure?

What about having sex with girls? What about having sex with 100 girls from every country in the world? What about having multiple girlfriends? How about having one cool hot looking, smart, compassionate girlfriend.

I just want you to think harder about your goal. Doesn't sound like you put too much effort in evaluating your goal. Maybe you did, but it doesn't seem that way with the on-liner answer.

Whether you succeed or not depends on how much you truly believe in you goal. If it's really that important, inspiring, exciting, and worthwhile you'll find any means necessary to accomplish it. But if you have any doubts about what you are doing, you gonna give up when you hit your first obstacle.

[coolth]

For now, my long term goal is for my bachelorhood not to go to waste. And by not going to waste Im referring to inaction towards sexual adventures. I know that someday I will quit gaming to be a good husband and a good father. So I just want to meet and seek the truth to all the "right" girls in Manson's treasure hunt as I can. So that's why I want to approach women at will. Its my intention for doing the numbers game.

That being said,

Approach #31: girl at street moving from opposite direction!

this one is historic for me! its been my dream of approaching a girl in this setting..

So I spot this cutie from an intersection. I approach with a semi-direct approach, asking for directions. Then, I said "Actually that was just an excuse for me to talk to you."

girl: why?
me: Coz I know you're the type of girl I will regret not meeting
girl: (smiles) and ask me if I work with the same bank she is working
me: no (points to my workplace area)
me: (because my intention was just to open and eject, I wasnt prepared for the receptivity) Hey, I have to go now because Im really getting nervous.
girl: (smiles sweetly and attempting to handshake)
me: (doesnt handshake and ejects)

[coolth]

approach #32: persian woman, 3 set

me: are you guys from around here?
HB: yeah
me: (random lame statements)
HB: could you please stay over there and not talk to us!

It was the best blowout Ive ever received!!! Haha! At this point in time, I will feel more insulted if I get rejected half heartedly. I want my rejections to be full of fireworks! In that way, I am liberated of it.

There was this one girl partying with other girls. 5 set. They were sitted on a table. I was thinking of approaching right then and there but I know its instant rejection so I wait for her to go to the cr or dance floor. Its already 3 am and my brother wants to leave but I plead 5 more minutes. Girl goes to dance floor. I of course make my move. In my mind, it was all or nothing. They just danced rather shortly and are then headed back. I block their path and go direct to my target. Surprisingly she was receptive! I ask her friend if I could borrow her to know her better. Unfortunately her friend joined us so I had to buy both of them drinks!!! But because of that we were invited to join their group and thus I was able to meet my target better.

I wasnt able to escalate physically coz I focused on making a connection. Was able to number close and fortunately we're still texting today.

[coolth]

wasn't able to make an approach yesterdday..still infatuated with approach #33..i think this is what they say that success hurts progress..must not develop oneitis!