coolth's journal

[coolth]

what's up pipz!

I joined this site so that I get accountability when doing my approaches.

Brief background: Im asian aged 25. Ive known game 7 years ago (yes, before the "great" neil strauss released his book) discovering it in sosuave.com. But a yr after I had a serious gf for five years using the techniques I used then. But in my fifth year I rediscovered game thanks to the "late" legendary Rob judge. Then along with him the discovery of entropy which is our master Mark Manson.

Ive done cold approaches in the past but I started just quantifying it this year and Im in measly 12. Lately Ive yet to approach a moving girl in the street.

More posts to follow..

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Lately Ive been pulling myself to do a decent approach. Primarily due to loss of momentum or whatever. So I decided to start again from scratch and go back to asking girls directions. (but for club game still go for solid game). What I learned is that how much inner game one possesses, there is a significant difference from applying it in real life. Specifically in stopping girls in the street! Its real fcking hard! I mean, I can approach women waiting for a bus, but a walking girl?! So instead of naming my current progress as approach no. 13 and 14, I will aptly name it as directions 1 and 2. (im planning to get back to solid gaming after 5 sessions of asking directions)

direction #1:
situation: girl texting in a bus stop
I apply Roosh's petshop opener so I ask her (delivered with deadpan expression) where is the nearest pet shop.(we're in a business district pretty much like the wall street of US) Then she was like "Pet shop?! I guess in a mall" (with confused look) Then I agree then eject.
It was a rush of feeling of being able to push thru with my goal. Although I had a hard time looking for girls that Im at least attracted to some level.(if she's not hot, its not counted) So I decide to go for another one.

Direction #2
Situation: girl walking towards me then I approach straight up and asked for the emergency room of a nearby hospital. The girl told me she didnt know but was suprisingly receptive and looked like willing to banter but unfortunately as she got closer I realized she was a 0. ( Manson's current system of 1 and 0)

So I learned that maybe I should deliver my openers with something besides a deadpan face cause the petshop opener was supposed to be hilarious. So thats my goal hopefully for tomorrow and again to stop a girl by letting her pass by then turn around until I catch up then block her path to deliver the opener.

My criteria of success is not a number but if I had taken action.

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direction no. 3
situation: Delivered petshop opener in the same street in broad daylight with lots of people walking past..girl says she doesnt know while continuing walking..

I learned that maybe I should block her path while talking to stop her

direction no. 4:
same situation but this time girl stopped even if I was at the side..

Im thinking of adding some followups..man, I cant wait to go direct because this is what I am used to in club game..

Im thinking that approaching is all about the scenario we are portraying..For asking directions, Im portraying that I am a guy looking for some random place. The direct approach is the scenario wherein a shameless guy sees a hot girl and tells her about it..

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direction #5
im trying to stick to tyler durden's classic post,how to implement a habit in that even though I was able to get out of office already dark and raining, I still asked for a direction. Still, I couldnt completely block the girl's path so she was walking while answering my question. In the next days, my strategy is to do a direct compliment and see where it goes. Im in a stage where my body is longing for an approach. Now, it still makes me nervous but its starting to feel like an adventure!

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i haven't done some cold approaches lately because I was being overly analytical. I've been busy analyzing the different aspects of the game (I know opening should not be overly complicated but I also believe that there is such a thing as if not perfect opener, the most ideal opener in a situation) such as how to open girls next to me in a bar, opening in the dance floor, opening 2 girls exiting from a bar's comfort room (its rare for one girl to go to the restroom in the clubs Im going). I'll be like mentally full of ammunition and then it fuking rains!!! (i depend on public transpo and carrying an umbrella in a bar sucks)

For daygame I still have this anxiety that what Im doing is abnormal and Im worried about what people would see. You see theres a difference in thinking the right things but still feeling nervous as shit. Its like there's still a part of my brain not contented with the affirmations we've known for so long like "dont give a f*ck" So the ff. are my epiphanies:

1. Im just aligning with my function in this earth as a mammal (when i get nervous about what people think if I stop women in the street)
2. that its my job to fulfill hot girl's feminine desires - no matter how much they say they met a creepy guy, somewhere in their minds their femininity was validated and it feels appreciated
3. and of course Im there to find the one worthy of my special breed of masculinity - meaning because I cold approach, I have special balls of diamond (a rare breed compared to supply of hot women) and that these hot women have feminine desires as well; also this conforms to Mark's treasure hunt principle plus the added principle of prizability

enough inner game shit, lately Ive been busy doing some social circle game hitting on 2 chicks in the same class Im attending.

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went out yesterday to the mall..i went there with a drastically reduced AA due to the mindset that im approaching so that I may be able to find out what story is waiting for me...thats all I ever wanted - a story..in this forum and in my life as well..

one of my problems is finding targets..its rare to see hot women in the mall I went to..so I spent 1 1/2 hr walking around the mall..

I did some warm up with my petshop opener which from now on I wont be counting..

approach #13
And so I went to a women's dept. store and spotted a ok looking persian girl..it was getting late and I dont want to end up empty handed (I know approaching homely women dont count but Im also building a habit so my rule is when time is running out, I should approach any woman) I just delivered my standard opener for dept. stores mainly the gift to little sister opener. I just asked her opinion and did some lame banter because I was akward..(such an amateur) ..then some cockblocking saleslady went to the scene in which I opted to eject bec.

1. its really getting late
2. girl not that hot anyway - just needed the quota
3. too lazy to engage in group dynamic

again it was relieving to do another approach once again..I felt very much alive!

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approach #14

I had qualms doing some approaches last night because I decided to attend an upscale dance class. The class was great. They teach social dances including salsa, swing, jazz, etc. And then I was offered to be a scholar because the owner told me they lack male students to partner with the females. Yay!!! (The ulitmate scenario) She even started to pair me with a hot instructor. I then decided to watch a class first. It was great becasue partners change every 5 min.

On to the approach, there was one girl there texting in the side. I just did some sit. opener , inquiring stuff. Did some banter telling her she doesnt look like a programmer but rather a human resource personnel.

An amazing idea just crossed my mind last night, I and my wing are planning to go back to school and take an undergraduate course, BS Tourism. Its the ultimate social circle!

[Zelazny]

Dude, a course because of the women? Just do what you want to do yourself man. It'll have more interesting women.

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I may have forgotten to mention. Im already working in a career that I wanted to be and thats why I start approaching after office hours as soon as I step outside our building. So primarily Im rooting for hot professionals as well.

Approach #15

I was walking toward my favorite mall to hunt when I pass by a park and see an Italian looking girl all by herself. I came over and just told her that "I was just walking past when I saw you and I just wanted to say you're amazingly beautiful". She said thanks. Then, because I dont have much time left and my only intention is to compliment then eject I told her that "unfortunately Im a shy guy so I have to get going" In which she replied with a smile and another thanks.

Still, I havent done direct compliment to a moving girl.

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approach # 16: I decided to walk towards my favorite mall so that I can do some warm ups but my mind was intent in approaching only inside the mall. But yesterday, I had this strange feeling of decreased nervousness. Could it be Im feeling the effects of desensitization? Anyway I spot a hot girl checking out some books inside a bookstore. Wanted to open situationally but I still have anxiety opening while people are 1 m around in the vicinity. So I wait until she exits and go to another store. I felt guilty for stalking although I believe stalking is something losers do for not being able to talk directly to the girl. I was merely strategizing.

And so she went to this clothing store and I was pretending to check out some men's clothes until I see her walking very slowly because she was busy texting. So I made my move and said "Excuse me, I just noticed you a while ago and I had to come back to say that you are really really cute" She said "thanks" with a sweet smile. And then I said, "Unfortunately you look like ure waiting for someone and so Im gonna go" She told me that she was indeed waiting. Again, all my focus is complimenting a girl because of the ff. reasons:

1. its part of the desensitization process

2. Im training my mind to approach because I have to let her know something important. That she is that beautiful to be approached!

So that will be my mindset. Rob and Mark preached for no outcome in my mind and just focusing in the truth. So I guess this mindset aligns with it because all I want is to fulfill her feminine needs and will base my subsequent actions based on her reaction. Also, the mindset lets me compliment in a higher level of position. (validating)

The feeling of following through with a mission is such an adrenaline rush!

[Halo Effect]

coolth, you're doing great!

I understand that you just want to compliment her and that that's enough for now. But your current behavior actively reduces the chance of getting her number or whatever. I think you're potentially disappointing girls who may be interested in you! Why not stick around and chat for a little while? Or just ask her number when you leave?

[coolth]

ok so last friday i didnt do any approach because I asked a new girl in our office which I stared flirting with to accompany me in a mall where she passes anyway on her way home. But in the expense of the woman Ive been with for 5 years on and off whom wanted to meet me demandingly. So I had to turn my cp off.

Im writing this out because I just want to say that social circle game is really different from day game and club game as well. And office social circle game is much more different. I had to establish to the girl that we are secret lovers (in a fun way of course). So we end up cuddling in a moviehouse however there was no makeout because she rejected every damn kiss attempt I made (no regrets

Come saturday night, I invited my wingmen but they werent available. If I didnt read sinn's solo game report I would have not gone out. So I decided to go alone with the intention that to be comfortable going out alone without necessarily approaching. And so I just chilled beside the bar and even in the dance floor smoking. (didnt buy any drinks the cheapskate I am) I didnt feel any anxiety whatsoever and my mind was like "I just chillin and aint nobody can take it away). I said some jokes to some girls dancing beside me (not hot) but didnt proceed to open. I stood to a bar next to the toilet rooms but with tables nearby so an approach there would be seen. There were some girls going to the ladies room alone but most have lady companions. Im thinking of doing an approach but I was searching for words to say. I just thought I should have watched Rob's infield videos before hitting the club.

But I saw a drunk guy open a girl with a companion and he was super direct and was hugging her very early. I watched their interaction and thought they would makeout but unfortunately they exchanged goodbyes. As a wallflower, I didnt find the rejection funny but what I felt was that the guy has balls. This is important to me because this is one of my sticking points in an approach anxiety - that people would see how I fail. Plus, not everyone was watching. The guy clearly didnt give a fck.

I then realized that gaming women should be treated like a movie scene in which all Im doing is following the script and acting out my character as a shameless masculine in a scenario of chasing tail.

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Been out cause just spent last week traveling with my girlfriend. So, no game whatsover. Right now Im still trying to build momentum. But yesterday I joined a dance class which offered me to be a scholar (discounted dance lessons but must attend fixed schedule). There was only one MILF and the rest were only M. But the instructor was hot. I wasnt able to focus on the lesson because her jugs were distracting me.

And so, this will be my social circle game for the next 2 months.

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approach # 17

Girl selling perfume. Basically a lame interview type interaction. Convo was going nowhere and my vibe was serious. Got to focus in having a fun vibe.

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approach # 18

since this is a womanizing journal and not a mere approaching journal, (sorry for the wrong heading) Im including the girl I flirted in my review class in plumbing engineering. Currently doing some text game. (social game can only count if interaction is obviously not platonic)

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didnt approach yesterday and now my brother is a dollar richer..

must lessen my losses by not making him richer today..

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approach # 19:

alright, after walking for an hour to a mall after office hours, I decided to call it quits and go home. In our country, the main mode of public transportation is what we call a jeepney. Its basically a long vehicle where passengers are facing each other. Luckily, I the girl facing me was fcking hot! I cant keep my eyes of her. I thought to myself I will approach her if only we had the same destination. (Its very hard to open in a jeepney. Much harder in a bus, train) Then, as I arrive my destination, she was still in the jeep. And I was like, "Oh man shit got real!"

And so I waited for her to exit the vehicle, followed her a few steps then, boom!
"Excuse me, we dont know each other but I just had to come over because you look like the type I will really regret if I dont get to talk to."

her: This is awkward.

Me: Im just being authentic.

Then some fluff talk. Then the gods of pickup decided to wing me because it was raining and she had no umbrella. So I offered her to accompany her to her house. And, surprisingly, she agreed!!!

I tried to take her in an instant date but she refused and offered to just smoke some cigarettes instead. Did some cold read and some soulmate connection by gambler on our way home. And of course the number close when we were near her house. After that, I felt like a super saiyan.

But of course, reality had to have its way. I told her I would come by her office for dinner but she messaged me that she had an "emergency".

So now Im thinking of going to her house and bring some food then go home. (Going to a girl's house is not considered courtship not stalking in our country). My thinking is that I want to take advantage of momentum and not let the stranger vibe return to her.


In any case, this is still the best street approach I have ever done so far. And no matter what the result is, I am excusing myself not to approach this week for this monumental step.

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update on last approach

We had a day 2 but our interaction was focused on the dynamic that I badly want her. I dont display needy body language but my game consisted of pure authenticity, vulnerability, joking around, teasing. But she is still not that into me and a couple of times she is flaky.

Im beginning to think I should have qualified/ pushpull/ challenged her more. I think this is where the importance of "game" comes to play.

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approach #20

2 girls seated in a bar

I just delivered my default opener of

"Excuse me, my friend here wants to meet ure friend"

They said, "No"

Me: ok

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approach #21

hot neighbor

Since she is a neighbor , my goal is just to talk to her and just let her know I exist because I know I can reopen anytime I wish. She lives at a house facing my wing's house. So I opened by telling her that my friend says they have the same work place. Then I give a hot-cold message my telling her that "my friend thinks ure a snob, but talking to you tells me ure not" Girl smiles then continues doing stuff.

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Update to approach # 18

It turns out she is a runaway bride. Yay! So what I do is run solid game by sitting next to her in class. It felt good being the flirty guy in class amidst the chodes who cant believe that I was flirting with all the hot girls in the class. So we just had our day 2 and we talked about everything. We went to cafe france and cuddled while eating. I kept on whispering to her ear and some kissing. Did sinn's hair pull. Placing her legs above mine. Some tickling. Cycling funny moments, disqualifying, etc.

I just had to share my insights on game after reading sinn's version. Ive been wanting to write about my theories but I wanted to write it along with field reports. And so,

My roadmap to game:

1. open / focus attention (indeed opening is just opening - to initiate convo)

2. cold read - for transioting

3. cycles of

a) get to know each other - one sharing one's identity (done thru storytelling and relating) and letting her share hers (cold reads)

b) push - teasing, qualifying by telling her things I dislike in women, being a challenge (prizability)

c) pull - compliment, positive qualifying , statements of desire (vulnerability)

d) connection - telling why we should hang out, roleplays, future adventure projection, making conspiracies

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approach # 22:

girl serving food:

After running solid game to runaway bride, I had to eat some snacks then I saw a hot looking food servant. At this point, even though she's hot I was saturated after running solid game. And so I just made jokes then I told her i wanted to take her out sometime but she's not giving her name. So i just told her i'll return. Turns out she is a divorcee.

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approach # 22:

girl serving food:

After running solid game to runaway bride, I had to eat some snacks then I saw a hot looking food servant. At this point, even though she's hot I was saturated after running solid game. And so I just made jokes then I told her i wanted to take her out sometime but she's not giving her name. So i just told her i'll return. Turns out she is a divorcee.

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approach #23: 2 sets at public swimming pool

2 girls were being talked to by an elderly man. After their convo, I opened them with "are you guys athletes?" In which the girls laughed. From there I used Roosh V's ramble about swimming. Then tranisitioned by cold read. It was smooth sailing afterwards and led to a number close after I joined them in exiting the pool premises. They were a bit conservative and so my drive was dwindling. And so with just one sign of flakiness, (didnt reply to text message the next day) I stopped gaming.

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update on approach #18: Short update, taken the girl to the movies so I have 1st base. Now I realize I really have to have my own place so that I am not logistically crippled!

Updates on daygame - due to consistent rains in our country, its been weeks since I did daygame. So yesterday I cant even stop girls walking towards me with an intention to ask for directions!! I have yet to date a moving set!!!

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some thoughts..

Brazen = bold and shameless (from Webster's) = doing what one wants without inhibition = not letting other's perception enslave one's identity

So in the pickup dynamic, to the girl we are the brazen admirer. And to those people we worry watching us, we are the "brazen guy".

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approach #24: Street approach (girl I have seen in public transpo for 3 times)

told her that I saw her before and wanted then to meet her. Asked her where she studies etc. But couldnt run solid game because I was on my way to work. I approached her because she was damn hot and my mindset was just open her now then game her later if we see again. Asked her for her number but she declined for two times in which I didnt force afterwards. Felt great after the approach.

Update to approach 18: Invited her to a resort since I dont have my own place. Turns out she was really a virgin at 28 yrs of age. I figured she may never give in since she is that close to maintaining her virginity till marriage. Massive blue balls. Although she is hot, Im beginning to lose interest. The only reason I still communicate is because I havent found a replacement yet. *sigh

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approach #25: saleslady at mall (clothes dept.)

approached indirectly by rambling about clothes..made her laugh..but was not able to run solid game because she was being distracted by customers..but it was good because I felt ok even if many people were watching me..(bystanders)

[Spikes]

I've noticed you've been grinding lately coolth. good stuff!

[coolth]

haha yeah and i hope my procrastinating side dont overpower me again..

today so far I did a warm up in a public transpo by using a petshop opener..It was a warmup because she's no hottie. Im just brushing up my rambling skills. Kinda like manson's program of rambling a random word.

Im planning to finish off approach # 25 this day and at least an approach #26.