building a connection

[max13]

Just wondering what questions i should ask and what i should talk about to make her feel a connection between the two of us because right now i feel all there we have is attraction for each other but i want to create something deeper than that between us.

[Trickster]

Read the Models chapter on vulnerability.

[Halo Effect]

You create a connection by sharing things with each other that are deep and personal; by sharing your real self. You have to take the lead here. Start sharing more of yourself. And this means making yourself vulnerable. You can share embarassing things or deeply personal things that you may not feel very comfortable sharing, but if you do share them, and she listens and is understanding, then it will create a powerful connection. Once you share of yourself, she will share more of herself also. Listen without judging and with acceptance. You can also get a connection when you have things in common. Things like interests, but deeper connections are probably the result of having values, beliefs and passions in common.

Btw, it's "I", not "i". And your posts would look a lot better with punctuation.