boring conversation detour

[Andy]

Hey guys,

I'm sure this question has been asked dozens of times, so if it sounds familiar and there is a related post on this forum (I couldn't find one), please redirect me there.

Anyway, was out with a girl last night, for the most part I can hold a conversation on my own pretty well. One grey area for me that I seem to get stuck on often is making subtle remarks to women in a sexual way (sexual intent). The most difficult thing is leading the conversation in a way where I can tease her this way.

For example, how would you demonstrate sexual intent (sorry if this sounds really game-y I have no idea how else to explain/ask) if you're talking about travelling or what her favourite dog is or whatever? You know what I mean. Basically getting from point A (normal stuff) to point B (playful/sexual teasing).

Has anyone really been stuck on this before? If so, what types of things did you do to solve it? From what I feel so far, a part of it has to do with getting over fear, as do so many other things. One thing I might add, I would appreciate practical examples as well if possible.

Thanks in advance for input.

Andy

[CHB2]

So far I am not great at purposefully leading the conversation in that direction either. I feel like generally if the vibe is right it just moves that way naturally, but it feels forced if I make a concious effort to "show sexual intent". I am pretty kinesthetic though, and tend to naturally include a decent amount of touching, so I find that helps bridge towards sexuality more than what I am specifically saying.

All that said, DJ Fuji talks about a pretty similar situation towards the end of his 21 convention speech (seminar?) He gives a conversational excercise where you attempt to bridge between 2 random conversational within 60-120 seconds. It seems worthwhile to attempt, as I imagine it is something you can improve with practice.