Why would you date yourself?

[Zac]

I was going to ask the question "What makes you awesome" but I think this is more applicable.

A lot of guys spend time here trying to figure out how to improve. Some guys blame girls for their lack of success. Some guys blame their race, society, looks or some other factor for their lack of success.

I think for a lot of people it would be valuable to talk about what makes them a great catch. Maybe this will boost some confidence, put some things into perspective, or help people solidify to themselves some of the things that do make them a great catch.

I'll start:

Please keep in mind I'm not always perfect....


I'm a very nice guy. I treat the people around me with respect and if I can make life better for the people around me without sacrificing my own happiness I will do it. It actually makes me happy to help the people around me be happy.

I try to keep as positive of an attitude as I can. I believe that attitudes are contagious. I often act enthusiastic about the little things and just try to be as infectious as possible.

I care about the world around me and making it a better place. I care about human beings and our species in general.

I love to cook and am generally a very tidy person.

I love having fun and going on adventures. I'm generally always down to try new things

When I want something I go get it. I don't make excuses.

I take responsibility for my actions even when I might not like the results.

I'm honest. I hate lying. I'm generally not very good at it because it makes me uncomfortable to do. When someone puts me in a situation where I have to lie or I am asked to it is usually very upsetting to me. I'd rather tell the truth and face a hard consequence than deal with the personal consequences of lying.

I try as hard as I can to be the best guy I can and I do it for myself first and foremost.

I am a leader. Whenever I join an organization or group I try my best to be a positive member of it. This has resulted in me being given leadership responsibilities and I live up to those responsibilities.

I don't have a victim mentality. I take responsibility for myself. I keep my word.

I'm incredibly sexy and good looking...... lol jk. I do however take my grooming and style seriously. I also carry myself well.

I'm confident.

I have spent a lot of time learning how to please my partners sexually. I care about my partners pleasure and actually hold pleasure and pleasure giving in a very high regard.

I'm social. I enjoy talking to people, getting to know them, finding out what their hopes and dreams are, what is important to them, ect.

I stand up for myself and the people around me. I am not afraid to say what is on my mind. I also stand up for people that can't stand up for themselves if I see that it is necessary.

I'm loyal and trustworthy.

I admit when I am wrong and am willing to hear other people's points of view on myself. At the same time I am sure of myself and who I am as a person.

Not always but I am usually very patient with people. I'm not the most patient person with myself actually but when it comes to dealing with others I think it's a very important quality to have.

Yeahhhh... I'm sure I can think of some other things but I'm sick of tooting my own horn.


Why would you date you?

[David85]

Awesome thread idea.

[Zac]

Thanks Dave. Looking forward to hearing your answers.

[Paul]

I would date me because I give a shit about my body, and try every day to make it better through diet or exercise.

Because I'm intelligent.

Because deep down I would really rather listen than talk, and truly learn what others are feeling. I only talk mostly about myself when I'm nervous.

Because I will not settle for a mediocre existence.

Because I'm a good looking dude (weirdly though... I've gotten more complements about my looks from guys than girls in my life...).

Because I will be making plenty of money and be living a comfortable life once I graduate from college with a CS degree.

Because I don't take my partner for granted.

Because I love sex and love pleasing my partner. Seeing my girl's body squirm around as I eat her out might be the hottest thing ever.

Because once I'm comfortable enough with a person, I become one of the funniest people ever.

Because I'm a cuddle whore and enjoy any kind of intimacy on a constant basis.

Because despite my predisposition to anxiety, I am able to work hard and overcome it, and could offer plenty of advice to others on overcoming these issues.

Because I am probably at a higher level of consciousness than most people.

[IdEngager]

To begin with, I'm not very tall. I'm also relatively skinny, so those of you that need a caveman to protect you from bands of marauding rapists should probably look elsewhere (hi Zac ). I'm occasionally still cripplingly shy. Exactly zero people have described me as warm and fuzzy upon the first time meeting me, and occasionally I've been described as "difficult to deal with" or "difficult to work with".

Onto my negative traits...

What you see is exactly what you get from me. The way I feel at a moment is the way I genuinely feel, I won't bullshit you with a fake face cause I want something from you (though I can shut up long enough to get by).

I actually do listen. Perhaps it's because I'm pretty much blind and the whole cripplingly shy thing, but I do listen.

I'm bratty and occasionally brash.

Been told I'm pretty enough times to be secure in my not ugliness.

Smart enough and worldly enough to realize I'm actually really pretty dumb (as in I've met enough people way smarter than me and I've met enough people who've gone through way worse shit than me)

I sing like an angel.

Plus I'm actually pretty easy to get along with.

But mostly, I know exactly what I am and I don't really care if you like that or not.

[FirstAidKit]

Ooooh this should be fun.

I'm likable. It's not always been that way but since about 19 or so I've found it extremely easy to make and keep friends and have acquired a social life filled with a ton of outstanding people who actively want to hang out with me.

I'm usually upbeat and positive.

I enjoy doing nice things for people just for the sake of it. I'm extremely generous with my house and space and quite regularly host people who are stuck who I barely know. This has paid off several times over though, I got to go spend 2 weeks in New York for free!

I am a really, really good cook and love cooking.

I prioritise doing interesting things and having an interesting job.

I've always been able to make people laugh. My favourite compliment I've ever received was after meeting with an ex-boyfriend I hadn't seen in a year was 'Damn, I forgot how funny you were'

I honestly love giving head and try and make each blowjob as awesome as it can possibly be.

I'm kinda cute. Also, I have 'stealth boobs'. They're actually huge, but the way I dress typically downplays it a lot (I'd like them smaller ideally). More than once I have taken my top off to 'Where the hell did THOSE come from?'

[Thor]

Why would I want to date myself ? excellent thread. Well I am a well travelled person having spent time travelling around south east asia, been to the USA mostly the west coast. I have even worked in mainland europe. Got lots of stories to tell of my adventures living and working abroad.

Friends tellme I am a good listener. I hate interrupting people when they are talking unless they are being rude.

I look after myself and go to the gym on a regular basis. Would describe myself as super fit. I mean since when has anyone complained about someone being super fit ?? :-)

[SeXyBaCk]

Dude - it's in the name - I'm fucking sexy.
'nuff said.

(05-19-2012 10:49 AM)FirstAidKit Wrote:  I honestly love giving head and try and make each blowjob as awesome as it can possibly be.

I don't see how such a claim can go unchallenged. Provide a demonstration/proof or otherwise.

But before I get banned for sexual harassment I'd like to talk about myself some more - I'll add more when I have time.

[Zac]

THAT guy

[Traindom]

What a fun thread! Nice, Zac!

I'm a courteous guy. I have morals and I abide by them whenever I can. I do favors for people and expect nothing in return. I'm not the guy who cashes in all his favors. I do it not to be accepted but because it doesn't hurt me any.

I'm diligent. I've watched my diet for a year and have transformed my body because I wanted to. I care about my looks. I work out three to four times a week because I want to be better. I still want to improve.

I play the guitar. It was rough learning how to fret the guitar the first weeks and I almost gave up, but with the help of my mom, I powered through. And now, I can read music, play the scales, hear when something's off, and know how to handle the guitar in general. If I really wanted to serenade anyone, I could do it. I had an amazing guitar teacher that made sure his students could play more than chords. So I can hit that sexy half-step between E and F with conscious delight.

I'm growing out my hair to have the sickest mane second only to Fabio's. I shampoo, condition, and blow dry my hair and I admit it without shame. I'm going to let it grow to my chest, but have it well-maintained. I even did a keratine treatment to have it tamed.

I'm rock-solid in my goals and aspirations. Even though I've had a slew of shitty hair days this past year and friends telling me to cut my hair, I never ever cut my hair. I'll cut it when I damn please.

I try to see the other side of arguments. I intentionally argue for other sides because I'm interested in the bigger picture and want to get a firm grasp of a situation. I'm willing to play devil's advocate and garner negative feelings just to truly comprehend things without bias.

I always always try to look past my emotions and looks for arguments that counter what I'm feeling because I don't want to be selfish. I'll always try my hardest to keep a clear head even when I'm pissed off beyond belief.

I like to keep my cool. Whenever I'm disrespected, criticized, or hurt, I always try to keep my emotions at bay.

I never hide my emotions with the people I hold dear. If I feel I'm being hurt or disrespected within my family, I make it extremely clear how I feel. I never poison my arguments with too much emotion because I know it'll push them away. I try to read people's motivations whenever I can to best ameliorate bad situations.

I like being vulnerable. I'll tell you about how I cried entering my sister's empty room after she had left for college. I'm not going to censor my emotions (thanks Mark) because I'm censoring who I am.

If I'm pissed, I'll tell you, "I'm pissed." I won't roll my eyes and play Twenty Questions with you.

I love tricking (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7qPSk53w7iU) and I'm going to devote myself to master the basics as best I can because I want to. I'm willing to fall on my ass a hundred times to satisfy my desire to flip around. I'm scared as hell, but I'll do it.

EDIT: I also forgot to add that I'm patient. I'll look at the sky for hours, but I'll wait. I'll wait not only because it's expected and nice, but because it gives me time to reflect. It gives me a much needed break from the world. I think patience speaks loads about one's willpower. Great patience is something that is not all too common.

[Tim]

Oh man my friends are going to destroy me if they ever read this but...

-I'm going to start with the biggest one in my mind: I care about people. A lot. Every day I see people mistreat each other, act thoughtlessly, and let themselves and other people down (I include myself in this too). Sometimes this makes me just want to shut my eyes, block my ears and not give a damn. But most days I just let it make me care any more. I've become much better at it letting it infuse me with that desire to be more and to do more, especially in the last year or so. All the time there are less and less people who I can't help but feel compassion for. In my opinion this affects my whole life so much that it has to be my best asset.

-In accordance with the last one, I care about morals. I spend a large portion of my time worrying about whether what I am doing is right and whether I am a good person. Maybe it gets to the point of being a bit narcissistic (in that it's a bit self-indulgent to think every little action I take has far-reaching consequences) but I think it's far better than the opposite. I care a lot about whether how I act is fair to others and to the world.

-I'm good-looking. I'd make me make noises I've never made before. I used to worry constantly about my looks, but now I don't think half as much about them, and occasionally I see myself in the mirror and just smile at myself, because I'm happy with what I see.

-I'm passionate about a lot of things. It takes me like 10 seconds to get super excited if someone comes into a conversation with the same excitement about anything I'm interested in. Zac... I think we fuel each other on this lol. I totally agree about that infectious thing and you live that.

-I've traveled a lot for someone my age, and I've got plenty more ahead. I can't imagine not going to see dozens of countries in my lifetime, and I think anyone who's with me on those journeys would have the time of their life.

-I am good in bed. Just ask your girlfriend.

-I am really good with kids and I think I would make an amazing dad. I've wanted to be a dad since I can't remember, and I think that's made me work hard on myself to be a good role model for them, and to have the patience, unconditional love, and acceptance that will make me a good father. Maybe this should be in a 'why would you marry yourself' thread, but I think ladies looking to get wifed up would be absurd to go past this.

-I'm funny. I'm no comedic genius, but I think the default mood of the world should be to laugh at the absurdity of it all, and I think I help provide the laughs we should all be having.

-I'm also really comedically immature. So if you want to descend to the level of cliched sexual innuendos, lame puns, and childish toilet humour, I will follow you there. If you can't laugh at these things with me... you're going to have a bad time.

-I love to dance. Sometimes I let myself hold myself back, but if we can get past that I will dance with you all night and actually have fun, instead of just being an awkward grinder or an arrogant fist-pumper.

-I will listen to you talk about your deepest, darkest fears and secrets and 1) not judge 2) really care and 3)never tell anyone.

-I'm cultured. I love good books, movies, TV, music and food, and I want to experience these things with others and then talk about them endlessly. I think Raging Bull is better than Taxi Driver, and I'll go into lengthy detail to tell you why. If you can explain to me why Bob Dylan is so damn good (coz I still don't get that) I am willing to be patient enough to listen as long as it take to figure out why. If you're more well-read than me, you'll have my attention forever (as long as you're not pretentious about it).

-I'm a geek, and I know it. Thanks to the awesomeness of the internet, pretty much anyone worth knowing these days is a geek. But you're not cool unless you acknowledge it.

-If I compliment you (and I don't do this often) I will really, really mean it.

-I'm open to change and I'm always looking to improve. Some days I might be stubborn, or lazy, or unrealistic, but when it comes down to it, I want to be a better person, and I'm willing not only to let that happen when the opportunity presents itself, but also go out there and get that. I don't see how you couldn't want to date that.

This list could keep going forever. I think I'm fucking awesome. I bet everyone else on this board is too. Everyone on here should be able to write a list at least as long as mine, if not longer.

[TheBoss]

[Creatine Dreams]

Hmmm...

I am intelligent.

I have a great sense of humor.

I am a good listener.

I am attractive.

I treat people with respect.

I know how to have a good time.

I have excellent choice in cologne.

I am an excellent cook.

[FirstAidKit]

Tim's post made me remember some more shit I like about me.

I'm a good dancer. This one still kind of surprises as my default is 'flail around like I'm being electrocuted' but apparently people dig that enough to come up and tell me about it.

I have an encyclopeadic knowledge of terrible puns. Like, I can go for hours.

I am wicked smart and read a lot of stuff about a lot of topics. I can talk for ever.

Man, we are all just total catches aren't we? Everyone should date us.

EDIT: And sexyback, you're just going to have to take my word on the blowjobs. I may not BE the best, but goddamit I will try.

[Creatine Dreams]

FirstAidKit is very dateable. I think you posted a pic once and you were cute. Plus, you seem open minded which is a quality I like a lot. And you have given a lot of people in here, including me, support and advice.

One day, I am going to buy you the largest lobster in the ocean, FirstAidKit!

[Trickster]

Lets see.

I'm very smart. Maybe too smart sometimes, but that doesn't mean I talk down to people because of my intellect.

I've traveled all around the world and lived halfway around the globe (in thailand). I've led, and experienced a full life, and have stories that could fill books. I'm always looking for my next travel adventure, not just to be in a new place, but to experience and share new things.

I can talk to anybody, and connect with anybody. One of my greatest talents is the ability to be friends with pretty much anybody. If you and I have something in common, I'll find it, and make that connection with you. Not only that, I can make people feel comfortable enough to tell me their secrets and their hopes and fears.

I'm witty. Funny. Sometimes absurd, but I'm usually best at the dry, quick comment that will have you rolling on the ground days after the fact.

I'm handsome and tall. I dress well and exercise to keep in shape, to fit the part.

I'm absurdly good with animals. Dogs and cats, they love me. They say that animals can sense an inherent goodness within people, and if that's true, I must be a pretty good guy.

I'm a nice guy. Not a Nice Guy™, but a nice, generous, kind, and loyal man. I am deeply loyal to my friends, to the point where my list of "friends who will bail me out of jail" has grown to over twenty, and over half a dozen people can legitimately call me their "best friend." It's because I care. I care about you. I care about how you're doing. I care about what's making you sad, and I give non-judgemental advice that comes from the heart. I love all my people, and I will do whatever I can for them, because they are my people.

I never cheated on my ex-girlfriend. When we were together, I treated her with love, dignity, and respect. If you were to ask her about me, she'd tell you what she's told me many times, even after our breakup. "May I just say that I have watched you grow so much, and so give yourself credit for the long way you have come as a person, and thus how many good things are in your future. You are an all around awesome guy- always were, always will be!" Her words, not mine.

I'm always trying to improve myself. Every thing I do, I try to push to the next level. This includes the relationship I'm in, the career that I have, the social life I've built, and the hobbies I partake in. I feel as though life is awesome but there is always room for improvement. Because of that, I don't believe in stagnation.

I've been told I'm pretty good in bed. But I also don't kiss and tell.

I've had a lot of hardship in my life. I also know enough about the world to realize that I'm blessed in many ways, and in the grand scheme of things I have not suffered nearly as much as others. I also have worked hard so that the demons of my past do not define who I am. Rather, they contribute to the complete picture of a mature me, and they keep me grounded as part of my path into my future.

The best compliment anybody has ever given to me: "You have some pretty smooth moves, for a nerd."

I live my life by three overriding principles.

1) Love the career you've chosen.
2) Love the life you lead.
3) Love the woman you're with.

I never deviate from that.

[David85]

Because I am not a whiny bitch! (Relax Reesays... It's a joke ;-) )

Really quickly off the top of my head...

- Raised in a good family with good morals/values
- Confident
- Very social and outgoing
- Have the ability to be very empathetic
- Always take out the positives of any situation and have a good outlook.
- Constantly improving myself. (learning to cook, hitting the gym, yoga, etc. Wanna learn Spanish!)
- Fairly well travelled
- Always up for an adventure and am willing to try anything new
- Love making people laugh

I really wanna put some more thought into this, but that's the quickie... Great thread!

[Traindom]

(05-19-2012 07:23 PM)FirstAidKit Wrote:  EDIT: And sexyback, you're just going to have to take my word on the blowjobs. I may not BE the best, but goddamit I will try.

Most awesome thing I've seen written by a girl yet, but I'm barely out of high school, so take it with a grain of salt haha.