Lately I've noticed I'm opening less and less sets every night and I'm becoming quite frustrated with the situation (that's why I decided to take the approach program that Mark recently launched). I hit the bottom yesterday when I was only able to approach one women... Thing is a couple of months ago I was approaching a lot of women without that many problems so I started thinking what was pulling me down.
I made the transition from indirect to direct openers around 7 months ago. It was great, it cut a lot of the crap out of the game and I did get mostly positive results. Whenever I connected with a girl, doesn't matter if in the end we hook up or not, she would almost always tell me she felt I was very confident. The problem is not working anymore.
One of the things I definitively need to approach a girl is to really find her beautiful, which for me means having a cute face and a somewhat decent body, although it doesn't matter if she isn't smoking hot, I just need her to have a cute face. Now if I find such girl at the start of the night I usually build up the courage, open her and no matter where it goes, it just gives me enough momentum to keep opening during the night, although I don't open as much as I should, and that's another problem that would require another thread
Thing is, if I don't find any attractive girls around me, I won't open. When I was doing indirect I would open just to "warm up" and that would be ok, even great because I knew I didn't want anything with them but it got me out into a very social, very talkative state that would help me later on. But now, having changed from indirect to direct, I simply fail to approach women I'm not interested in. There's no rational reason and I'm usually a very social guy outside the club, is just that I'm not able to "fake" an approach to a girl I'm not interested in. I don't know how to handle the situation or how to proceed, I feel I'm not having a great time as I was several months ago and I don't know what to do about it. Any suggestions or ideas? Please, if you have, concrete ideas... I know all the dissertations about why I should approach and be social and all that stuff, but rationalization ultimately doesn't work, or at least it hasn't worked for me in the past (that's what I took the approach program in the first place...) Anyway just venting out my frustration from yesterday night...
