Traditional PUA tips and bits.

[Chaos]

Most of the time I've spent in the community I have been dealing with trying to separate good advice from complete crap. My experience with traditional PUA advice, specially with routine based advice, has been mostly crap with some buried gems inside... after almost 2 years this is a summary of things I've actually found useful. Most of this I've incorporated as part of what I do and I don't even think about it. I try to quote the name of the guy I first heard it from:

- Self-amusement: Whenever you're making humor or teasing your main goal should be self-amusement, if possible you should be able to crack yourself up. That has the added advantage of not being outcome dependent, you say what you find funny, not what you think others might find funny. (Mehow).

- Difference between being a good guy and a being a nice guy. This was HUGE for me, and allowed me to reconcile a lot of the concepts of the community with my ethical boundaries. Basically, a good guy is not afraid of his sexuality or physically escalating, he can respect a girl and still want to fuck her (that's not a conflicting thought), he can respect a girl and still establish well defined boundaries... and a lot of additional adivce.(Kezia).

- Callback humor: Extremely useful in every situation. I install it with almost every girl I met (disregarding if I'm interested in them or not). It acts as a flask to bring back some of the temperature you had when you met her. (Adam Lyons)

- Kiss closing: The basic kiss close where you'll just switch to a more seductive voice tone and speed while also reducing the physical distance between you and the girl. If done right and slowly it gives you plenty of time to read if she wants to kiss you... it also makes a really good first kiss since it has a lot of anticipation imbued into it. (Gambler)

- Expressiveness: Specially letting your emotions reach your face. (Nick Sparks)

- The 3 second rule: I don't specially follow it, but I believe is a great advice.(Mystery) Instead I have...

- Once you start walking you keep walking: I don't know why, but with that mentality I don't get nervous... I can hesitate or wait for a good 3 or 4 minutes, but then once I start moving towards the girl I just go through no matter where it takes me, even if someone starts talking to her or if she grabs her things and prepares to leave I will go talk to her anyway.

- Sexual escalation: Nothing to add... just doing it, not any concrete technique.

Probably I'm letting some bits out, but after two years that's a summary of all I've found useful in the community, mixed with a lot of crap that I won't cite but which would either not make sense at all or only work for the particular coach who was doing it.

Any good advice or things you find particularly useful? I'm talking about specific techniques or concepts... (BTW I'm leaving out Mark general comments because obviously that's what mostly influenced me in all this time or I wouldn't be posting here :O)

[IdEngager]

I think the one that pops back into my head the most is kino. I'm sort of an aloof person naturally, which helps sometimes, but remembering that reminds me to connect physically on top of connecting mentally and emotionally.

[NakedAndFamous]

Well i'd say some basics like:

Eye Contact(!)
Body Language
"Kino"

More specific things:

When you think about kissing her you could've already done it.
or the 5-Questions-Game by Strauss, had some funny experiences with it.
And i still remember reading "the book of pook" had quite some influence on me, so there are probably some gems hidden aswell.

Other than that, i can't really think of that many useful stuff they we're teaching. Most of the advice was just fucking weird to me. Like all that "rock the room" bullshit. Going around highfiving everyone, swirl girls around, befriend the barkeeper and the dj. Or Stuff like Peacocking...

And i just got sick of all the guys posting those Californication-like Layreports. I remeber one guy who wrote that he boarded a plane and was seated together with an old man to the left and a hot women to the right. After the plane started, he started talking to the girl and 2 minutes later she gave him a blowjob. One guy on the forums asked him how he did this. He responded something like "You know, those things just happen from time to time, there's not much you can do about it".

Ironically it was the same day i stumpled upon marks old blog. and LOL, now that i remember it; The first entry i've read was about Mark getting pissdrunk because a "not-soo-goodlooking"-girl tricked him into drinking tequillashots while she was drinking water and he had a blackout and woke up in her bed
My reaction was something like "Finally someone normal i can relate to" and well, here i am now