The No-More-Porn Thread

[Zelazny]

Okay, been a while since I posted,

I just got back from a long week of skiing, where i shared a bed with a platonic female friend of mine (I do not wish to become intimate with her and vice versa), where most of my time was filled with talking, skiing, socializing, skiing, sauna and skiing. There was no opportunity to masturbate and there most definately was no porn at all, as I wanted to stay offline (No internet, phone, whatnot) for a week and just read some good books and have a good time.

All of that worked like a charm, but after day 4, the combination of exercise, sunlight, feeling good and not having any other stimuli, I started getting horny as hell. I approach more, I flirt more and women seem a lot more attractive. Wow.
Let's see if I can stay offline more, it seems to make me happier and helps to stay away from porn, though my use is still diminished since the first no-porn-challenge earlier in this thread.

But hell, do all men feel this driven to find beautiful women? I couldn't even sleep properly due to feeling too horny last week

[The Notorious PhD]

Are people limiting masturbation as well? What's the typical quota?

[Halo Effect]

Some of us try to do no masturbation at all. Some guys try once a week. Some guys do ONLY no porn.

See what works for you. Personally I find limiting masturbation as well as porn has a very strong effect. If you have no sex, this can get quite hard though.

[Pineapple]

I've read on YBOP that fantasy is unhealthy to a degree as well (though not to the degree that porn is obviously) so I'm doing my best to give it up as well. It feels a little weird to be honest. Even Mark advocates it in Models ("When you’re out and about during your daily life, every beautiful woman you see, every hot girl you talk to, I want you to imagine what it’d be like to have sex with her"). I've found it to be a great motivator in the past, so giving it up will be difficult. Up to three weeks now without porn though!

[Traindom]

I masturbated to physical sensation twice in like two weeks. I don't know if I should start the count again. I agree, Halo Effect. It's pretty damn hard to have no sexual outlet at this age and cut all out. I woke up this morning and felt overwhelming urges . Should I start the count again? There wasn't any fantasizing. Help?

[Trickster]

day 7: My libido has still been wildly variable, though I've noticed less of a need to rub one out unless I REALLY feel like it. On the other hand, I hooked up with a lady friend of mine over the weekend, and had no trouble keeping my erection, which is actually a problem I've had since I ended my long term relationship 3 years ago. So far, I've been vigilant about keeping my computer away from porn, though I gotta say watching Game of Thrones sometimes borders on pornography

As a side note, I've been telling some of my friends about my porn moratorium and it's been interesting to gauge the difference between female and male reaction. Most of the men I've told think I'm crazy and think my rational is ridiculous pseudo-science. Most of the women I've told are either bemused or curious as to the rationale.

[Zelazny]

I've noticed that as long as you frame it as a form of taking control, it is more accepted.

[YMZ]

I'm currently on day 8 or so. Having done a run of 50ish days last year, I can now say that the first week is always the hardest for me. I find myself more irritable (a major trigger for PMO), question my motives, and generally come up with all sorts of reasons for why "it won't be a big deal". After a week though, the positive benefits start shining through. One tip for others in this phase is to go out and interact with as many people as possible. Proactively get out of the house to be social. I'm a student, so sometimes I choose to do my work in coffee shops and the library instead of at home, in front of the computer. The social benefits of a PMO diet (feeling more natural in my own skin, in short) show me the kind of man I would like to be consistently.

One thing I've noticed during the current streak is that I am more open about my sexuality and shame. When I find myself feeling self-conscious, I now naturally explain to others why I. For example, for the first time in my life, I am having a birthday party this week. Some close friends asked me why this year, of all years. Instead of brushing it off with some defense mechanism or another, I explained that I was always self-conscious growing up about friends not accepting my invitation, so I saved my ego and bothered to throw a party. It was definitely a deeper emotional thread in the context of the conversation, but my friends were accepting if a little caught off guard. It felt really good to get that bit of shame into the open. It was also during this streak that I decided to address my sexual shame, when I made the thread on sexual anxiety in the confidence subforum.

In general, I'm finding this pattern to be more prevalent during this streak. I hold back on opinions and reasons less and am able to go with the flow more - even on topics that otherwise would be embarrassing. Of course, this openness could be due to better awareness. We'll never know, but I'm not going to fix something that's not broken.

[DaVinci]

Always wanted to do this and tried it before, got to day 4 and quit lol


this time will be different!!!


Day 1 of no masturbation and no pornography complete (technically i havent watched porn in like a week but ill just start them off on the same day)

on to day 2 tomorrow

end date: May 31st!!!

ps. im missing mb already, seems like this is gunna be quite the challenge, bring it on!!!!!

[questra]

Guys,

Just to update and keep myself accountable. I'm up to day 8 now. The past week wasn't too bad as I was really caught up in work and went for a short weekend trip with my girlfriend. The same 'unable to cum' problem came up again during the first day of vacation (Day 4) but was able to finish properly on Day 6.

What I found is that after having that orgasm, the desire to watch porn just jumped up again. Guess the orgasm-porn link in my brain is still pretty strong.

I'm traveling for work alone right now - and being stuck in this hotel room alone is certainly making it a lot harder to stay off any stimulating material.

Will stick to it and hope you guys stay strong too!

[Trickster]

Day 8. My libido seems to have flatlined - I haven't had the urge to spank it in two days, which is really really uncommon for me. I hope that what happened to others will happen to me and my sex drives comes back eventually.

[Halo Effect]

I'm starting a new challenge now, 30 days no porn and no masturbation.

Feeling good about it.

[The Notorious PhD]

Alright, day 6 for me I believe. This has been pretty easy so far, haven't felt any urges to watch anything.

For fear of the placebo effect, I'm going to wait another couple weeks before I write-up my experiences regarding levels of horniness, interest in women, displaying sexuality etc.

[Edmond Dantès]

(04-01-2012 12:15 PM)Halo Effect Wrote:  Ah okay. I agree with all points you make. Sex in porn is almost always empty and fake and you see extremes constantly.

I do think, though, that it's completely fine to want things that are also done in porn. I sometimes read opinions stating that everything porn-like is disrespectful or unnatural. Like anal sex, coming in her face occasionally, hard and rough sex, dominance. Nothing wrong with those things. And many women who absolutely love doing those things as well. But in a healthy relationship these things are done in a context of mutual respect and trust, and only when the time is right for them.

Yeah, I totally agree with you on that, too. Great to see that we're on the same page

Failed yesterday with my challenge, my new goal:

No PMO till 20th of april

[Warwick]

Shoot, I fell off the wagon last night. Starting over, 30-day challenge. Goal is no porn or masturbation through May 6.

4/6 - Day 1 complete
4/7 - Day 2 complete
4/8 - Day 3 complete
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[Halo Effect]

I watched a little porn to "prepare" for a date. We talked about a certain video and I made sure I had it and the preparation became a little longer than was necessary... No orgasm though, and haven't seen any porn alone other than that time. So that's like 4 days now.

[NDO]

Day 2. Hope to stay at it a bit longer than the last time
(9 days w/out masturbation, 2 weeks w/out porn) and
get a bit of a motivation boost out of it (I usually get
more motivated around days 6-7 of no jerking off)

[CHB2]

I think I have gotten over the hump on the no porn thing - I haven't watched for about 3 weeks and don't really have any desire to anymore. I failed the last time I tried to do this because I also tried to cut out masturbation as well, but that was too much for me to tackle at once. This time I have kept masturbation between once and twice a week, and think that is a reasonable level to maintain.

Who knows what will happen going forward, but I understand that watching porn is at best neutral, and at worst highly negative towards my goals and to a healthy lifestyle in general, so I will keep focusing on avoiding it.

[Thor]

I have a habit of looking at porn twice a week. Today I take on the 60 day challenge. See how long I can do ;-)

[Pineapple]

So over 4 weeks without porn now, feeling good, but still haven't completely given up fantasy. Which I really don't see as too big an issue, as I always fantasize about girls I know (but haven't had sex with) in first-person, in realistic scenarios. Nevertheless, I'll keep trying to give up (realistic) fantasies as well, it just seems somewhat unnecessary.

[NakedAndFamous]

Im on Day 31 of no PMO.
My Libido & Mood are still swinging quite heavily, didn't feel really good the last 2 days. I've decided to go for 90 Days and i'm pretty confident that i'm going to make it. Really helps to visit this Thread or yourbrainonporn if you suddenly have the desire to watch porn or masturbate.
But even after 30 days i don't really feel balanced at all. Sometimes i wake up with this "Own the World" feeling and other days i'm quite depressed. Don't know if its just the no PMO thing but my brain is certainly behaving quite strange these days

[Tim]

Just saw this on Reddit: a picture of Jenna Jameson before surgery and without (pornstar) makeup...

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Realise that might not have helped. Just thought it'd be interesting to point out how different most porn stars look.

[Mark]

She's still really flippin' hot... then again, I've only looked at porn a few times in the last six months, so maybe my standards have reset and are realistic now.

[Tim]

Yeah I think the point is, at least for me, how hot she is there. They don't need to make them fake to be beautiful.

[Mark]

Ahh... I see. Yeah.