The No-More-Porn Thread

[Zac]

Damn man, thanks for all of that. I think if I really set my mind to it I will be able to do it. I'll get there. I never really thought of this as a problem but it seems kind of silly that I told myself I don't want to watch it and I still did. Thanks again, I'm going to read through this entire thread I just kind of jumped on at the end.

[crazyhorse]

(03-23-2012 05:47 PM)Zac Wrote:  Damn man, thanks for all of that. I think if I really set my mind to it I will be able to do it. I'll get there. I never really thought of this as a problem but it seems kind of silly that I told myself I don't want to watch it and I still did. Thanks again, I'm going to read through this entire thread I just kind of jumped on at the end.

you will get there!

I'm 100% convinced of that!

Definetly read through the thread, I think you'll learn a lot from it.

Feel free to ask me more questions, later on. (preferably in this thread or through pm).

[Traindom]

Hey guys. I've started a dry run (pun intended) and I've made it a week without porn or masturbation. It's been going pretty well. I notice that my member is fuller than it used to be. This had happened to me before. It's like it's going Semi Super Saiyan on me (Sorry, I've been watching the show a lot). I'm generally more relaxed and able to look people in the eye better. I'm less of an anxious wreck. It's not like I'm detached from my surroundings but I am more at peace with them.

Now for the interesting part. I'll be honest, when I read about Mark having pornographic dreams, I was like, "No way, wow." I had actually had my fair share of such vivid dreams but not of that caliber. By the way, I'm currently experiencing that again. I took a nap today and dreamt that I was going to break my run and I was torn. Thankfully, it was a dream.

But yes, my dream bordered on hentai/sci-fi/dungeon/etc. I dreamt that I combined with this evil monster suit in a dungeon and did some naughty things. Then I rampaged through some mall. It was pretty bad.

Yeah, this one is definitely not going into the records.

By comparison, the porn start dream seems mild haha.

[crazyhorse]

(03-26-2012 11:16 PM)Traindom Wrote:  Hey guys. I've started a dry run (pun intended) and I've made it a week without porn or masturbation. It's been going pretty well. I notice that my member is fuller than it used to be. This had happened to me before. It's like it's going Semi Super Saiyan on me (Sorry, I've been watching the show a lot). I'm generally more relaxed and able to look people in the eye better. I'm less of an anxious wreck. It's not like I'm detached from my surroundings but I am more at peace with them.

Now for the interesting part. I'll be honest, when I read about Mark having pornographic dreams, I was like, "No way, wow." I had actually had my fair share of such vivid dreams but not of that caliber. By the way, I'm currently experiencing that again. I took a nap today and dreamt that I was going to break my run and I was torn. Thankfully, it was a dream.

But yes, my dream bordered on hentai/sci-fi/dungeon/etc. I dreamt that I combined with this evil monster suit in a dungeon or a tunnel and stuck my member into a girl's mouth and then repeatedly slapped her from cheek to cheek with it. Then I rampaged through some mall. It was pretty pornographic.

Yeah, this one is definitely not going into the records.

By comparison, the porn start dream seems mild haha.

wow easy on the details concerning the porn dream there tiger .

I'm glad you're noticing positive benefits already!

[Traindom]

Sorry about that. I edited out the graphic details. I guess I spilled my guts a little too much. I just had to share it because it was so weird. You can edit it out in your post or just quote my edited post to spare people the details.

But yes, great benefits so far. I don't have a girlfriend yet, so I can't describe how it affects that aspect of my life. I can only speak from a heavily limited point of view. I think it's particularly challenging to fight your cravings (which I am doing pretty well since I keep myself busy) when you don't necessarily have anyway to release that sexual tension in healthy ways besides masturbation.

[Tim]

This thread can get pretty R-rated at times. I pity any woman who stumbles upon it.

Nevertheless it's a great thread and I have to say I've really benefited from (mostly) giving up porn and masturbation. I still use both very occasionally as a release. Whereas it used to be a habit or something to do when bored, which definitely wasn't healthy.

The biggest benefit for me was the amount of energy I get, which makes me so much more productive at work. As long as I sleep well then it's not hard for me to focus or get in the zone, which is something that happened much more sporadically before I gave it up.

[crazyhorse]

(03-26-2012 11:55 PM)Tim Wrote:  This thread can get pretty R-rated at times. I pity any woman who stumbles upon it.

Nevertheless it's a great thread and I have to say I've really benefited from (mostly) giving up porn and masturbation. I still use both very occasionally as a release. Whereas it used to be a habit or something to do when bored, which definitely wasn't healthy.

The biggest benefit for me was the amount of energy I get, which makes me so much more productive at work. As long as I sleep well then it's not hard for me to focus or get in the zone, which is something that happened much more sporadically before I gave it up.

It's great to hear from you Tim!

I actually taught you were a bit sceptic about this?

I'm going to write up a reboot story within a month or so. So far I've already noticed quite a few amazing things.

[Traindom]

Yes, I've felt better focus now as well. And interestingly enough, I noticed why I would masturbate. Before going to sleep, I play a game on the Nintendo DS and routinely go on the online multiplayer. The online multiplayer is a horrible, horrible hell full of glitchers, hackers, people who gang up on you and just wait until time runs out, and a ton of taunts. I've adapted to a number of their tactics but there are instances where I'm extremely frustrated. During those instances of frustration, I would get a sudden urge to masturbate and just go to sleep. I realized that I used masturbation to blow off some steam.

There's a ton of other factors that set it off like being alone, stress, boredom like Tim said, and more. But I've come to realize where the ride can get bumpy.

[Tim]

I agree with the general argument that guys are better off with less/no porn. I still like watching it with girls though if they're into it, so I could never swear off it totally

Also like Traindom just mentioned the hormones masturbation releases can be a great way to help send me to sleep, so I sometimes use it for that. I know that if you rely on it though then it loses effectiveness and you can become dependent.

The main reason I was arguing against it is that I don't like when arguments become too one sided, because then there's no real debate, and also it can get taken too far. I often play devil's advocate to try and avoid this happening.

Having said that I think this thread has been very accurate and helpful, and I think you've done a great job keeping it that way crazyhorse. Now I'm wondering what your next crusade is going to be!

[crazyhorse]

(03-27-2012 12:14 AM)Tim Wrote:  I agree with the general argument that guys are better off with less/no porn. I still like watching it with girls though if they're into it, so I could never swear off it totally

Also like Traindom just mentioned the hormones masturbation releases can be a great way to help send me to sleep, so I sometimes use it for that. I know that if you rely on it though then it loses effectiveness and you can become dependent.

The main reason I was arguing against it is that I don't like when arguments become too one sided, because then there's no real debate, and also it can get taken too far. I often play devil's advocate to try and avoid this happening.

Having said that I think this thread has been very accurate and helpful, and I think you've done a great job keeping it that way crazyhorse. Now I'm wondering what your next crusade is going to be!

thanks for the praise! I'm really passionate about this, because I know that there are so many guys out there who are going through the same. These guys are thinking that something is wrong with them, but usuallly they are just watching too much porn.

I know porn isn't for me. I either have to cut it out of my life completely or I watch it way too long. Yeah, this stuff is pretty addictive. I just watched a documentary about Mike Tyson and he said "either I have a lot of money, or I don't have any, there is no in between". It's not that different for me and porn.

It's not glamourous to admit this, but I don't think I'm alone on this one.

[Traindom]

(03-27-2012 12:14 AM)Tim Wrote:  I agree with the general argument that guys are better off with less/no porn. I still like watching it with girls though if they're into it, so I could never swear off it totally

Also like Traindom just mentioned the hormones masturbation releases can be a great way to help send me to sleep, so I sometimes use it for that. I know that if you rely on it though then it loses effectiveness and you can become dependent.

The main reason I was arguing against it is that I don't like when arguments become too one sided, because then there's no real debate, and also it can get taken too far. I often play devil's advocate to try and avoid this happening.

Having said that I think this thread has been very accurate and helpful, and I think you've done a great job keeping it that way crazyhorse. Now I'm wondering what your next crusade is going to be!

Haha. I'm the devil's advocate incarnate. I always try to argue against the arguments of my family members, friends, etc. I secretly like it, but many the times it has burnt me haha. Like when somebody does something that seems offensive to someone close to me, I consider other possible angles from which this could have been unintentionally so.

And yeah, crazyhorse. I agree. Personally, I can't go back to porn occasionally at this point. I did it before and I binged on it while thinking, "Just one more day, and that's it. I'll be satisfied." I never was. It might be a casual thing in the future, but right now it's radioactive for me.

[Thenewguy]

I'm in. Started on march 23rd, on may 23rd we see what happens.

[Creatine Dreams]

I actually tried watching porn a couple of days ago and it did nothing for me. I do way better just using my imagination.

[Pineapple]

Started two weeks. Flatlines are so frustrating. Sometimes I'll get flashes of my sex drive back, and its incredible, but then I'll flatline again eventually. I find I'm getting a bit moody because of it.

[Mark]

(03-27-2012 06:37 AM)Pineapple Wrote:  Started two weeks. Flatlines are so frustrating. Sometimes I'll get flashes of my sex drive back, and its incredible, but then I'll flatline again eventually. I find I'm getting a bit moody because of it.

This is what happened to me. By the third or fourth week though, my sex drive had come back.

[Trickster]

Day 1. I'm finally committing myself to this. Prior to this I spent about 2 weeks spanking it 2-3 times a day to porn EVERY DAY. It definitely lowered my aggressiveness and sexual energy, so I'm limiting masturbation to 2-3 times a week, and no more porn. Lets see how far this takes me.

[NakedAndFamous]

I saw the article on the mainpage and thought it may be time for an update!

Started the Challenge in December and my last relapse was on January 15th (Got rejected - got drunk - got home, classic stuff ) since then i'm off porn for good.
"Unfortunately" i've met a cute girl during this time and things got pretty awkward in the bedroom, this shit really fucks with your head. Wasn't able to maintain stable erections (even tough i was able to get orgasms) etc.

So i've decided to cut out PMO completly for a while and see where it goes (i'm on Day 15 now). I grew up with highspeed internet and i think masturbating to hardcore porn years before my first real encouter with a girl really made things a shit-ton worse.
I mean, even tough i'm in for quite a while now, i still can't tell that my libido is 100% back yet and even the morning wood returns only like once a week.

So my advice for the younger guys out there who grew up with hardcore porn would be: block all your acces to porn and just quit everything directly for atleast a month.
I really think your brain just needs a complete reboot for all the overstimulation it has felt since its childhood.

Otherwise you may be in for a long and painful journey like me. And trust me, it sucks when you're presented a sealed deal and you have to pass it up because you just don't feel ready..

[Warwick]

A great thread and a worthwhile challenge. I'm in, starting today!

[crazyhorse]

Awesome it seems like my "no more porn" army is growing by the day .

Welcome my minions, haha,

just kidding off course!

(03-27-2012 03:59 PM)Trickster Wrote:  Day 1. I'm finally committing myself to this. Prior to this I spent about 2 weeks spanking it 2-3 times a day to porn EVERY DAY. It definitely lowered my aggressiveness and sexual energy, so I'm limiting masturbation to 2-3 times a week, and no more porn. Lets see how far this takes me.

Sounds great! Your story isn't that different from mine.

If you read through this thread, you'll find a couple of amazing tips and experiences from the guys here.

The second post in this thread should be really great for people like you who are just starting out.

as always, feel free to ask for more information if something isn't clear.

(03-27-2012 07:02 PM)NakedAndFamous Wrote:  I saw the article on the mainpage and thought it may be time for an update!

Started the Challenge in December and my last relapse was on January 15th (Got rejected - got drunk - got home, classic stuff ) since then i'm off porn for good.
"Unfortunately" i've met a cute girl during this time and things got pretty awkward in the bedroom, this shit really fucks with your head. Wasn't able to maintain stable erections (even tough i was able to get orgasms) etc.

So i've decided to cut out PMO completly for a while and see where it goes (i'm on Day 15 now). I grew up with highspeed internet and i think masturbating to hardcore porn years before my first real encouter with a girl really made things a shit-ton worse.
I mean, even tough i'm in for quite a while now, i still can't tell that my libido is 100% back yet and even the morning wood returns only like once a week.

So my advice for the younger guys out there who grew up with hardcore porn would be: block all your acces to porn and just quit everything directly for atleast a month.
I really think your brain just needs a complete reboot for all the overstimulation it has felt since its childhood.

Otherwise you may be in for a long and painful journey like me. And trust me, it sucks when you're presented a sealed deal and you have to pass it up because you just don't feel ready..

Yeah I've had a couple of emberassing moments myself.

Particurarily the apathy and sexual anxiety were just horrible.

I mean if you stand there and a cute girl gives you eye contact and all you do is feel fear.... Not very plessant. I mean it's okay to be a bit shy, but fear...

(03-27-2012 08:43 PM)Warwick Wrote:  A great thread and a worth-while challenge. I'm in, starting today!

great!

read up on the advice I've given to trickster.

good luck to you as well.

[Alvar]

Question for you guys, specially for those that already grew up with internet: how old were you when you first started getting interested in porn and became regular consumers?

[crazyhorse]

(03-27-2012 10:53 PM)Alvar Wrote:  Question for you guys, specially for those that already grew up with internet: how old were you when you first started getting interested in porn and became regular consumers?

good question Alvar!

I was 10-12 when I started masturbating (maybe earlier) to pictures of britney spears. I think I got my first encounter with internet porn in my first year of secondary school.

All in all, the years arn't perfect, but I knew I was hooked. Still, if you look at it, that's way to early. Perhaps I was 12 years old when I encountered porn.... I had my first girlfriend/kiss when I was 14 or so.

[Mark]

I always around 11 or 12 years old. At first it was just Playboy type stuff. It wasn't until I was maybe 15 that I started to find the hardcore stuff.

[Alvar]

Thanks, those were the answers I was afraid to hear.
My kids leave Friday on holiday and in 2 weeks my 11 yo. will be here alone with me for the weekend. They have a PC on their room, so I'll make sure to knock before I enter the room

[crazyhorse]

(03-27-2012 11:30 PM)Alvar Wrote:  Thanks, those were the answers I was afraid to hear.
My kids leave Friday on holiday and in 2 weeks my 11 yo. will be here alone with me for the weekend. They have a PC on their room, so I'll make sure to knock before I enter the room

haha true, you are father! I had totally forgotten about that.

Just in case, there's always K9

[Edmond Dantès]

So Gentlemen, how are your longterm results?