The No-More-Porn Thread

[Pineapple]

(05-14-2012 06:13 PM)Majik Wrote:  

(05-14-2012 05:55 PM)Pineapple Wrote:  Disappointingly, I've relapsed two days in a row. I was at over 60 days and doing so well, so I really feel that I've let myself down. However, its in the past. I didn't have K9 installed before so I'm going to install it, pick myself back up, and get back on track.

Wow, 60 days! That is an amazing effort. Well done! Be really pleased with that. What benefits did you have? Do you have any advice for lasting that long?
Then what happened to set you off?

Thank you. I think the greatest benefit was getting "flashes" of an incredible sex drive. It felt great walking on the street, in clubs, etc with so much sexual energy, and interactions with women felt much more natural and rewarding. As Mark said, I also felt that I could appreciate and be attracted to women I normally wouldn't be attracted to. It wasn't a permanent change (there were many flatlines), but I believe it can be if you abstain for long enough.

I think the reason I lasted so long was because I was away at University, and if I wanted to "release" any sexual energy I had, I'd just leave my house and walk around/go somewhere. The city I lived in at University is crawling with college girls.

However, since the beginning of May, I'm living back home in a small town with predominately elderly people. I don't have the luxury of just getting up and going out whenever I get the urge to. These past two days, I've just really had an urge to release all the sexual energy I've had which led to my relapse.

I'm going to need to stop using "living at home" as an excuse if I want to get back on track.

[Majik]

I can identify with that. I have been back living at home, in a small village with not much going on. The boredom just sets in! Luckily I have got a a fair bit of casual work the next few days, so that should keep me out of trouble!

[Bulgakov]

i've switched on old vids of pussycat dolls and some dougie action by kate upton in the past few days.

softcore porn?

[Majik]

You know what? I have found that this time around I have been thinking about porn a lot less. I know that by writing on here it is a slight contradiction, but I haven't beeen having as much of a constant mental battle as last time. I am pretty stressed right now with a lot of other things on my mind, but in the past I would have used porn as a means of escape from that. This time I am just fighting a mental battle to get myself to actually do the things I need to do.

I hope that is a ray of hope for some other people out there. If you can put some hard yards in the first time around, even if you fail once or twice, then it may just get easier down the line

[Anakind]

30 days without PMO, never lasted so long, yabba-dabba-du

[Arikado]

52 porn-free days.

I'm finding now that even when I think about porn or fantasy, I don't really dwell on them anymore. They just kinda go on their own.

[Trickster]

Okay, update on my end. Unfortunately I fell off the wagon for a solid month, but it's because I found out my ex-girlfriend had a new boyfriend and I took it very poorly, and found myself masturbating to thoughts of her, which I needed to put a stop to, so I went back to bad old porn habits.

And I started seeing someone new, and last night I couldn't get my sex drive going. She said she was perfectly okay with it since we just started seeing eachother, but I'm going off porn again because I was disappointed in myself. Ever since my ex and I split up porn has been the primary source of my sexual stimulation and I don't think it's a coincidence that I've had some ED problems ever since. So I stopped looking at porn 3 days ago, and I'm limiting masturbation to once-twice a week. I just hope that the lady hangs around long enough during this initial up and down phase.

So we're starting again. Day 3.

[Majik]

Nice one Trickster. Good luck with the new lady!

I am quiet jealous, I would like a lady in my life right now. Although still feel I need to sort myself out first.
Not really been counting properly this time. Ironically, after writing my last post about not thinking about porn all of a sudden I was thinking about porn! So I can see why it goes a bit quiet on here sometimes.
Just worked it out and this is day 6. One week tomorrow, happy days

[Brandnew]

Hi, I'm Brandnew, porn addict

In my darkest hour I'd watch porn for 8-12 hours daily, usually brutal stuff and gangbangs. Though I masturbated few times daily to porn I had very low sex-drive towards real women, and experienced erectile disfunction, usually when applying condom on.

My achievements: 50 days PMO free, and 3 months of relatively small porn / mastubation activity.

Effects?: I no longer have ED problems, but because I'm still wathincg porn my libido and motivation to play with real girls is very low, though I've masturbated 9 times in last 7 days. I think my brain rewired, because lately all I need to please myself is Argentina dance with stars or latin america strip comedy shows on youtube. Though it's a progress since rough sex porn excessive masturbation still drains my energy, plus a lot of girls during one session it's a lot of dopamine. And since I'm living in central europe conditioning myself to latin women (how come all the girls from latin america TV shows are so hot?) it's not the smatest thing to do. Besides, I'm simply missing oportunities around me, because I don't have motivation/balls/interest in girls from my everyday life. And living in the withdrawal feels shitty.

My only concern is that I might have some sex opportunities during the flatline and mess them up, but on the other hand if I won't stop wanking I simply won't have any opportunities. So I'm starting this thing on, no porn and no hotties from youtube, that's my goal, first checkpoint - 1 week, Today is day 0!

[Thor]

Managed 14 days without looking at any porn then I got crazy and erupted like a volcano

[Nick]

I'm back on track again. My last fap was 10th May so it's been 8 days now. Before that, I was masturbating daily after a 20 day streak of not masturbating. I'd tell myself: Nick, this is the last time! For real now! And then the next day I'd relapse. Still, it's progress. Before starting this challenge, I was masturbating 2(minimum) to 4 times daily, regularly even 5 or 6 times in a day. The longest I'd been without masturbating in my life was 5 days. So as someone said, it was back to day 1, but not back to square 1.

My trigger for the daily relapses I was having last week was procrastination in general. I would play Age of Empires Online for way too long, or watch an entire season of a TV show, and not get much done in the day. As strange as it sounds, not being productive makes it so much harder for me to stop myself and say enough is enough. It is negative momentum or something like that.

Anyway, one thing I'm happy about is I haven't watched porn even once since starting this challenge. I don't even get much of an urge any more. I guess porn has never been as big a problem for me as it is for others here. Masturbating has been the vice that has dominated my life, and I can't explain how badly I want to complete this 60 day challenge.

[Brandnew]

Damn, I fapped like 5 times yesterday to those stupid yt vids, one once in the morning just to relieve the tension. I do believe it has a lot to do with some homework I have to finish this weekend, actually worked hard on it for like 6 hours Today.

I just reminded myself, that while doing 50 days of no PMO I was meditating daily - it's just stupid when I think that I can't find 30 minutes daily for that when I'm spending hours online for no apparent reason, so I have to get back to it. Maybe it will strenghten my frontal cortex weaken by addiction or whatsoever. Anyway here I go again, no porn is my goal, but I alson plan to reduce heavy on masturbation, because of the chaser effect. I wonder if I experienced flatline since I already rebooted once and I can masturbate to climax without any visual / mental stimulation. Though I'm almost sure I'll experience withdrawal, this bitch always show up like some persona non grata. Day 1.

[Halo Effect]

Quote:Damn, I fapped like 5 times yesterday to those stupid yt vids, one once in the morning just to relieve the tension. I do believe it has a lot to do with some homework I have to finish this weekend, actually worked hard on it for like 6 hours Today.

Self-discipline is a limited resource. If you work for 6 hours on your homework, it's going to be damn hard, if not impossible, to keep yourself from viewing porn. This will be even moreso if porn is a stress-reliever for you and you are stressed after so much work. That might be why you watch it while you have homework to finish. Stress relief, or just plain procrastination.

It is natural to "run out of selfcontrol" after doing much hard work. Everybody has that. Consider installing a porn blocker, so that even during those moments where you are "weak" (in psychological literature they call it "ego-depleted"), you will not watch porn.

[Anakind]

I almost relapsed yesterday on my 34th day, glad I made it through and didn't break my run. I think it's true what somebody here in the forum said that when you are tired it's especially difficult. In general I'm getting incredibly horny now after a month. Anybody made the same experience after that time?

[Trickster]

Day 7. Holding strong and deleted all my porn. Also only spanked it twice in the last week. I can feel my libido returning a bit, but it's still a little erratic.

[Majik]

Just failed again Only the once though. This was the 11th day.

Had been building up the last couple of days. Heart is not really in it at the moment. Got far too much going on in my head. Leave for the next season in 11 days. Always get incredibly stressed leading up to that. Will see if I can last until then, but not too worried if I don't . Know that once I get there it will be far more difficult to access, plus I will be really busy. Both of those things should add up to a prolonged period of abstinance. Fingers crossed that is enough to 'cure' me!

[Majik]

Ok, been reading the yourbrainonporn site for a bit and it is helping. Was a bit too resigned before. This page is helping.
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/i-relapsed-what-now
Failed again after writing the last post through lack of anything better to do. Had a banging headache, and I think I brought a headache on the first time too! Not something I will be repeating again soon. Looking at porn blockers now.
I do have better things to do. LOTS of better things to do. Time to start doing them!

[Brandnew]

Yeah, porn was definately my stress relief strategy I relied on for years. I had installed K-9 on my home computer and also on my mom computer (because is caused me relapse every Sunday when I was visiting her, it'a pity that it took me so long to to do this, guess I just wasn't honest with myself).

Anyway, I'm on my 5th day, fartest I've been since like month, but this week a month ago was possible because I had sex. Actually I turned to porn because I started flatlining and my ex was about to leave in few days. It worked. But now I don't have much perspectives on sex, so I hope I just ustilise my energy in other way. I've also find it problematic not to look at the pictures of hotties at my job, the ones that are on the news or gossip pages. Though it's obvious that I'm not jerking off at work, but each virtual hottie I see there tears a liitle hole in my will and feeds the urges.

No flatline yet, i've got morning woods, I'm not touching myself, just dryhumping my blanket hiabitually though I also got boners at work for no apparent reasons even when I'm not thinking anything sexual. Yes I do find more girls hot, but I don't feel motivated to do anything about it yet (and thats my goal, to grow balls to talck to girls

And by the way, is there anyone on paleo diet? Since I started eating fruits instead of bread I got insanely sleepy from time to time sugar llevels in my blood are just plain weird.

[Bulgakov]

14 days - i keep watching brianna frost stripper videos on youtube.

am i still doing it right or is that cheating?

[Pineapple]

(05-24-2012 03:56 PM)Bulgakov Wrote:  14 days - i keep watching brianna frost stripper videos on youtube.

am i still doing it right or is that cheating?

Its kind of like an alcoholic switching to lite beer instead of quitting alcohol altogether.

You should avoid these videos as well.

[Trickster]

Well my libido is back. And it's RAGING. Though I did watch one of those Cathouse documentaries on HBO, I wonder if that counts as porn? Day 10.

[SeXyBaCk]

Day 25 I guess for me. I haven't really noticed anything peculiar/out of the ordinairy. I did (definitely) once wake up at night and wanted to watch or dreamt about some porn, decided not too because I just couldn't be arsed to fire up the laptop and went back to sleep. It's possible it happened twice, it's a bit of a blur. Aside from that... I had a lot of sex last week, and was feeling really horny, not so much the week before that and the last couple of days. I think that could just be regular fluctuation with me. But it also could be this reboot thing. Basically in the last few months my libido has been pretty on and off for what I put down as emotional reasons. Also the woman I'm seeing is pretty much throwing herself at me every given opportunity. I'm having a hard time ga(u)ging my libido.

I've not really had that problem of not seeing women as attractive physically, but I don't often get interested/fond of their personality. I see pretty girls on every corner. Anyway, i guess i've been consuming pornography for the last 15 years or so (i'm 28), so it'll probably take a while still to get out of my brain. I'll keep going.

Yesterday I clicked on a torrented movie that hadn't fully downloaded in my download folder... it opened and it wasn't "Reign of Fire" but some porn gangbang scene, I hurridly clicked it shut within 3 seconds and deleted it like some schoolboy who was about to get caught. That was weird. I didn't even have time to think of the porn challenge thingy. Why would anyone mislabel porn for some tacky movie about dragons that I saw 10 years ago and wanted to re-watch?

Anyhoo' this is kinda tame. I was hoping for more noticeable effects. I'm going on vacation soon with above mentioned woman for what is now shaping up to be by the sound of it a fuckfest. Here I was hoping for some culture. Maybe I'll have more to report on my libido after though.

Hmm, this is bothering me now. From how I (like to) remember it my libido appeared a lot stronger in recent years. My porn consumption hasn't change since. What's changed is 1. I used to be with someone I was really into who was very sexy and 2. I now spent my days most helping to deliver babies... I'm basically surrounded by a lot of pregnant women and new parents all day long and I'm wondering if all those hormones along with ... being exposed to asexual nudity has somehow numbed my senses/sexual appetite. I'm moving on in my clinical rotation in july, so maybe my mojo will come back after. Maybe though I'm also just getting older.

[Henryinwonderland]

Hi Guys,

great thread!
I'm trying but apparently I can't do it. After a couple of days I feel an overwhelming urge to look at porn and to masturbate. I don't have any will power to fight it. I have it for other issues but for porn and masturbation it totally controls me. Also I'm looking at things I never used to watch like femdom, scat and so on...many based on women humiliating men, so I guess it's some psychological problem I have with women. I haven't had sex for two months now. I go out but I'm not interested in the girls I'm meeting, they all seem shallow and superficial.
At the start of the year I slept with a lot of girls, they all annoyed me and now I'm back alone. Masturbating and looking at porn.
I have a software that turns porn down, but whenever I feel the urge I switch it off. Also I work with the computer and I work alone, at home. Can't change that.
I'm sort of fucked.
I need to deal with this but whenever I try I overanalyze it, start reading articles and books, then implement it for a couple of days and then...I fall...

It's bad, it seems I'm helpless, strange feeling...
Sorry guys for throwing this out but didn't know who to talk to about it...

[Majik]

Hi Henryinwonderland,
keep trying mate, you will get there eventually. Maybe try setting yourself a short deadline, like 'I will go the rest of this week without porn' and take it from there.

I am no expert though, as I am officially back to day 1, as in today. I am thinking of trying a difffernet tactic. I said last time that I wasn't really counting, and I think I might try that again (even though I got further with counting days). Instead of thinking 'I have gone X amount of days without porn' I am going to make it more of a lifestyle choice, like 'I do not watch porn', in the same way that 'I do not take drugs' if you know what I mean? Will see what happens, but my willpower to not watch porn is very low at the moment. Wish I had a girl throwing herself at me like SeXyBaCk! haha

Ok, so one of the things I found on the yourbrainonporn website was this little tool called 'Cold Turkey' ( http://getcoldturkey.com/ ). I think it is pretty good, and not easy to over ride like K9 if you know the password. I typed in all of the porn sites I could think of (and I tend to use the same ones) and it changes something on your computer blocking you for up to 7 days.( You can buy it to make it 30 days). Now I just have to be strong every 7 days to block myself again. There is obviously a way to still get porn if you go to differnet sites, but I have made it much more difficult for myself. Removed the familiarity, or habit if you like, of cruising the same old sites. Hopefully that will help me break the habit

[Brandnew]

I just fapped. It's my day 7 of no porn. I was reading Patrick Carnes book on Cybersex Addiction, and he opinted out, that relapse doesn't happen in the heat of the moment but it's a chain of triggering events and Seemingly Unimportant Decisons.

What went wrong this time?
-Well, even thogh I was not watching porn I was checking gossip sites / popular portal for non nude galleries of big boobs (this is kryptonite for me, I guess I'm wired for fake tits, and since it's very uncommon in my country I'm wired for dissatisfaction)
-it's Friday, and I kinda wanted to go out, but procrastinated in front of computer till it got late, stayed home, got little frustrated and, you already know)
-my crush (or one-itis if you prefer) contacted me on facebook yesterday. I like her a lot, but she told methat she is not interested in having parnet right now and want friends, so I decided it would be the best not to see her for a while. Then she contacted me for no apparent reason with this "longtime no see" bs and even though I finished the conversation rather coldly and did not suggested any meeting or desire for next contact I felf sad afterwards. And I felt like crap Today at work, could that be withdrawal from her because I decided not to see her
-my apartment is a mess, and theres not much food in my fridge, and I was cleaning my place which for some reasons is a stress for me

Anyway, I gotta be more careful now, because chaser effect works really strong for me. Guess I'll just go to bed soon and meditate a little bit. It's sex days since my last MO and Im like to keep this ratio or even decrease it.