Telling Her to Kiss You!!!

[DaVinci]

Hey guys I was wondering if anyone has had any experience with this sort of thing - telling her to kiss you


basically ive always heard in the PU community that you have to initiate all escalation or its basically not going to happen,


at a University Halloween costume party that i went to of which i decided i was going to be super fun and dominant i was able to kiss 3 girls and make-out with another

I have a special way of getting girls to dance with me, which works out pretty well, it starts charming and respectful but dominating and works its way up to getting intimate quickly (and of course this dance transitions directly from the Honey Badger Dancing that im doing)

anyways i ended up dancing with around 12 girls, we would dance for around 2 mins, me feeling up her back hips and doing fun twists and stuff too

then instead of trying to initiate a kiss on my own i would look her in the eyes, give a mischievous smile and say - "Kiss me!" (while kinda pulling her in)

[ps. obviously it didnt workout this way everytime, i may have forgotten the smile, or the pulling in, but this was the best case scenario]


out of the 12 girls I danced with, I told around 8 to kiss me, got 2 to kiss me on the cheek, 3 to kiss me one the lips, and one who fully took over and just started making out with me


and im there thinking, that's a hell of alot easier then trying to figure out the perfect moment to do it, i can just claim it out loud and see where she is at with me,


Worst Case Scenario: She scowls, says "no!" and walks away

I can handle that!!!


Best Case: A Makeout that can lead to further escalation

I can definitely deal with that


Your not being needy because your not asking her - "can i kiss you?"

you asserting what you want her to do as a command, but your giving her the choice/opportunity to act upon it,

seems dominant and respectful at the same time

(ps. i believe that your entire ummm... frame is the only word i can think of, has to be consistent, eg. if your afraid to touch her and get too close to her when dancing and its kinda awkward i dont really see this working well)

could this work on other areas of escalation?

Thoughts? Comments?

[Tim]

Why wouldn't you just look her straight in the eye and then kiss her?

[machiavelli]

Every time I've tried the tell-her-to-kiss-me strategy, or even hesitated to get to the bold direct kiss, it's led to resistance. Not sure why, but, hey, data.

[Chaos]

It doesn't matter. I've k-closed with the old mystery kiss close routine and with standar kissing. Both work alright.

The point os how you do the actual k-close doesn't matter, I'd she's ready and waiting for it all that's necessary is that you lead the kiss, no matter the way you actually do it.

[CHB2]

Yeah, the Mystery "Do you want to kiss me" is a little less committal, and just looking her in the eyes and kissing her is more dominant. If "kiss me" is working for you, keep it up. I personally do the same as Chaos.

[DaVinci]

(04-03-2012 06:29 AM)Tim Wrote:  Why wouldn't you just look her straight in the eye and then kiss her?

well the thing was these werent girls who i had established any sort of connection with or anything

it was literally within the span of one/two dances, with little talking (asking name and what school she went to was pretty much the extent of it)

and I was going in on a bunch of them so it was kinda rapidfire

also one girl flat out rejected and said she wasnt that type of girl, wouldve been awkward if i kissed her hahahaha

[Mark]

Just kiss them. Don't ask them.

Yes, even on the dance floor after 10 minutes. Especially on the dance floor after 10 minutes. In fact, the minute you ask you probably kill your chance.

[baller08]

(04-03-2012 09:44 AM)Chaos Wrote:  The point os how you do the actual k-close doesn't matter, I'd she's ready and waiting for it all that's necessary is that you lead the kiss, no matter the way you actually do it.

Bingo. 100% truth.

If a girl doesn't kiss you at the actual moment of the kiss...it isn't because you didn't execute a certain strategy...it's because you did something previously that made her feel uncomfortable or not attracted enough to kiss you. (This is of course assuming that you're on a date already or she liked you enough to spend time with you during a cold pick up).

[TheBoss]

I find that once a girl starts dancing with you in a club you can make out with her within 5 minutes.

[Warped Mindless]

As others have said, don't ask or even mention it. Doing so will sometimes put them back into logical mode. Just going for it works well and even if she turns her cheek but stays its a good thing. Thats not a rejection thats just her flirting with you and saying "not yet."