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Street to the Bedroom Question
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Street to the Bedroom Question
Guys,

Been backpacking around Bulgaria and Slovakia. Whilst out in Slovakia in the city of Brataslavia I went out to a bar for a drink and got chatting to a couple of girls at the end of the night I was feeling "on fire" as it was.

Whilst walking back to my appartment late in the evening see a girl in her 20's walking up towards me. I give her a smile and say "hi" how was your night. She stopped and began chatting to me telling me how boring her night had been. She asked me how I was and where I was from. Told her I was backpacking around Bulgaria and Slovakia and planned to stay a few days here in the city.

She began stroking my bold head and smiling at me gazing into my eyes. I guess she had never seen a dark guy with a bald head before who knows Smile.

Well one thing led to another and I said to her "Look I have got drinks at my appartment why dont you come and join me for a couple of shots of vodhka" she just looked me in the eye and then said "sure" and smiled.

We began walking down to the appartment which was ten minutes walk away from the main city centre. We continued to chat as we approached my place.

The moment I put my key into the door and opened it I began to feel the nerves hitting me. This was the first time I had brought a girl back to my appartment. I showed her round the appartment and we sat down on the sofa both sitting next to each other.

I poured both of us a drink..still feeling uneasy about this whole thing. The question in mind was shit what the hell do I do next to get her into bed ????.

We continued to chat and then she began telling me how she had broke up with her boyfriend a couple of days ago and telling me how much of an asshole he was.

I listened till she finished talking then moved in and kissed her on the lips. We began making out then she pulled away.

I was still feeling nervous so I poured myself another vodkha to calm my nerves. I then grabbed her hand and said "come with me" hopeing to take her into the bedroom.

She said "no I want to sit here and drink" so I said no problem and we continued drinking and chatting. After a while I tried again I took her hand this time she followed me into the bedroom and I perched her on the bed. She then looked at me and said "you want to fuck me its ok" .

The problem is I didnt know what to say to get her clothes and felt like a scared little child !!.

I pulled her top down and began kissing her neck and shoulder. Then tried to undo her bra with my my hands. She said "oh noo you have to undo my bra with one hand not two" I tried with one hand but I just couldnt do it so I looked behind and undid with both hands. Heres me thinking of shit she will think I am totally unexperienced with women.

Once I had finally got her bra of I began to kiss her nipples. She said "ohh your so horny when was the last time you had sex" I said to her its been a long time". She gave me a surprised look and said "I don't believe you your a good looking guy".

Now the tricky part came I had to get her skirt of and I didnt know how to get it of it was like I shit this is hard work.

Should I have told her to undress ? or should I be undressing her ? How do you guys handle this ?

The nerves hit me again and I felt like no matter how hard I tried I couldnt get a hardon.

Anyway cut a long story short we never had sex. I called a taxi and sent her home. I didnt feel dissappointed in anyway that I didnt shag her as it was a whole new learning experience for me.

How could I have played things better ?

Thanks
05-08-2012 08:37 PM
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RE: Street to the Bedroom Question
I think your issue can be summed up in your statement "Heres me thinking of shit she will think I am totally unexperienced with women." Are you totally inexperienced with women? If you are then either try to fake it until you make it (most elements of sex aren't really that difficult), or try to be honest with the girl.

As far as taking off a woman's bra, I had a similar experience last weekend - I couldn't get the second clasp undone -and just asked the girl for a little help. She said it was no problem, and that it sometimes sticks on that bra. It did not derail things and she did not assume I was clueless. Regarding taking off a skirt, I usually start stimulating a girl over her clothes and taking my own clothes off while we are making out. I will then take off her bottoms - if I have any trouble from small buttons or whatever, and she doesn't start to take them off herself, I will just ask her to take them off.

It is really good that you have the outlook "I didnt feel dissappointed in anyway that I didnt shag her as it was a whole new learning experience for me." Every contact with women I have had in the last 6 months since I have been focusing on this aspect of my life has been part of learning. All the fuck-ups, missed chances, etc. sting a lot less, and I know a lot more as a result of them. They are really all just a part of the learning process. Just keep at and the results will come.

Hope that is helpful. Good luck
05-08-2012 09:37 PM
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RE: Street to the Bedroom Question
Be less nervous... which you will next time.

Congrats.
05-08-2012 10:43 PM
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RE: Street to the Bedroom Question
CHB2 thanks for taking the time to reply. When you say your stimulating a girl over her clothes what exactly do you mean ?


(05-08-2012 09:37 PM)CHB2 Wrote:  I think your issue can be summed up in your statement "Heres me thinking of shit she will think I am totally unexperienced with women." Are you totally inexperienced with women? If you are then either try to fake it until you make it (most elements of sex aren't really that difficult), or try to be honest with the girl.

As far as taking off a woman's bra, I had a similar experience last weekend - I couldn't get the second clasp undone -and just asked the girl for a little help. She said it was no problem, and that it sometimes sticks on that bra. It did not derail things and she did not assume I was clueless. Regarding taking off a skirt, I usually start stimulating a girl over her clothes and taking my own clothes off while we are making out. I will then take off her bottoms - if I have any trouble from small buttons or whatever, and she doesn't start to take them off herself, I will just ask her to take them off.

It is really good that you have the outlook "I didnt feel dissappointed in anyway that I didnt shag her as it was a whole new learning experience for me." Every contact with women I have had in the last 6 months since I have been focusing on this aspect of my life has been part of learning. All the fuck-ups, missed chances, etc. sting a lot less, and I know a lot more as a result of them. They are really all just a part of the learning process. Just keep at and the results will come.

Hope that is helpful. Good luck
05-09-2012 04:41 AM
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RE: Street to the Bedroom Question
I agree with CHB2. Leading her to the bedroom should be something that comes naturally over the course of making out. When the excitement is so over the top it doesn't feel like something planned but like something completely natural.

What CHB2 means is just escalating. Let's say your making out with her... you can kiss her neck, lick her ears, touch her breast, roll up her shirt a little bit and kiss her, maybe use your tongue to insinuate where it can go next, grabbing her ass, grinding, petting. All that stuff... progressively clothes will start dissapear... I usually don't move action to the bedroom until we're almost naked ... sometimes not even then Smile

Just follow your instincts and don't be afraid to try. Just keep it progressive... you can't make out and just go take out her pants... Foreplay is really important for girls specially but also for us... if you can enjoy the foreplay you'll find you're the lover every women wants. In fact, try to focus on the foreplay and forget about actually getting your dick wet... that will come as a result of the first.
05-09-2012 12:17 PM
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RE: Street to the Bedroom Question
Yeah, basically what Chaos said. Girls respond really well to foreplay, and will often help you both get into it and stop worrying so much. Also realize that women are often self-conscious about sex as well and may be just as worried that you are judging them. As I said though, it will all get better with more experience.
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