So I can't stop thinking about this girl...

[badaimer]

Hey guys. Long time lurker, first time registerer (hah) and poster. English isn't my native language so I will try to keep this post short and to the point. I have a tendency to ramble, so be warned... but I really want input on this so every response appreciated!

Let's start with some background:
I used to be the standard "forever alone" Comp. Sci. student. I spent my time playing massive amounts of video games, reading sci-fi/fantasy books and my social life consisted of killing dragons or watching an occasional movie with the 2 good friends in my study group.

Don't get me wrong, I was enjoying myself for many years living this lifestyle and it did pave the way for my soon to be finished M. Sc. in comp sci. But it also left me as a guy in his early 20's with 0 experience with girls.

During the last 1.5 years I've been going through the "standard" process most people in this community go through, starting with the PUA stuff and moving on to more confidence building and lifestyle changing stuff. I now have some experience, I have a lot more confidence and I have an active social life that I'm thoroughly enjoying.

Anyway, my current situation:
So I met this girl in class. To be honest, she really isn't that special. Yes, she looks good, but we have very few things in common and when we hang out we have fun but it's far from amazing.
We have not even kissed yet, but for some reason I'm obsessed with her (think about her almost every day, even days we don't see each other or text.. I'm stalking her facebook too..) and it fucking scares me.

I'm afraid I might be moving backwards and losing the confidence I have built.
I'm afraid that this desperation will ruin any real chances I have with her and I'm afraid because I'm not even trying with other girls any more.

So wtf do I do?

[The Notorious PhD]

Hang-out with other girls too.

[SeXyBaCk]

You have a crush. Go up to her, say you like her and ask her out (did you really need someone to tell you this?). If she says no you just move with your life, might hurt (depending on who you are) but you'll handle it. If she agrees on a date make sure to keep breathing and living your life as you have been.

What not to do? This: over-analysing about how you're thinking about someone while you're actually doing nothing and fretting over losing your progress.

Dude, you're a man, you're supposed to like women and take a liking in specific women. You don't even know why you like her, so ask her out and find out or close the door on it. Either way, you'll be progressing and not treading water.

[baller08]

What Sexyback said. Your issue is simply lack of options. But why you lack options is the bigger issue.

Read this, especially the first part: http://baller08.blogspot.com/2011/02/com...y-all.html

[machismo307]

youre not getting any that is why this happens, hit on some other girls, show off some other girls and maybe you have a shot with her, if youre a computer nerd, heres what you do, stop wearing pants high , wear em just above your ass , buy two good jackets, wear tees not shirts , cool tees are better and nice shoes, dont walk around in jeans and running shoes, that looks ridiculous, buy some cool black bball sneakers or black shoes that are comfy, i hope you dont have glasses, if you do see if you can wear contact lenses, though glasses are not the biggest drawback, if you dress cool, people will think youre aight