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Should I wait until I've lost all the extra bodyweight to start approaching women?
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Should I wait until I've lost all the extra bodyweight to start approaching women?
Hey there. Let me give you a bit of background so you get where I'm at and where I want to go:
College student, freshman, 19, I'm fat, but I already lost the weight before. The problem was that I stopped working out. So I know how to do it since I did it once. I started to lose weight again about a month ago, and I've been weightlifting for about a year. Also I have noticed muscle and strength gains. I have been fat for most of my life up until that time in high school when I lost the weight, so I have this idea that because I am fat, no girl would even consider me (as it is most often the case with us guys).
I'm not looking to be a player but rather have a nice, steady relationship where there IS a connection. Heck at this point, a relationship with a dull airhead is welcome. I have overcome most of my complexes and overcome my shyness for the most part. BUT every time I try to start something with a girl, I wonder if she will be uninterested from the get-go because I am still fat. If I keep my current weight loss rate, I should be at my target weight by june or july at the latest. Despite being overweight, I don't consider myself being 'ugly' (facial features, etc). So my question is: Do women (generally speaking) care about 'weight and body fat levels' as much as men do? Should I wait until I am noticeably thinner to try to get a girlfriend?
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03-09-2012 08:33 PM
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RE: Should I wait until I've lost all the extra bodyweight to start approaching women?
yes they care, no not as much as men, on average, and no you should not wait. Plus, you need to get better at approaching anyway (almost everybody does to start) so you might as well work on that at the same time. June comes around, you are in good shape.
03-09-2012 09:20 PM
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RE: Should I wait until I've lost all the extra bodyweight to start approaching women?
Definitely keep working hard on improving your physical looks and health but don't let anything like this hold you back from getting yourself out there meeting new people. You are still a valuable person no matter what you weigh or how you look. You might get lucky and find a girl who likes you no matter what you weigh on the way to getting in the shape you want to be in for yourself.

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RE: Should I wait until I've lost all the extra bodyweight to start approaching women?
Yeah man, don't wait to approach or go for a girl. Your value as a person is not defined by your weight.

And yes; you will get better results when you've lost some weight, but it's good for you to continue approaching and then watch as your results improve. It'll give you a sense of progress and achievement that will help both with girls and with keeping off the weight.
03-09-2012 10:55 PM
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RE: Should I wait until I've lost all the extra bodyweight to start approaching women?
First of all, congrats on working on your body. It is a first step in the right direction. Like all the other suggested, you should start approaching at the same time. Why wasting the time? In a few months you will feel much more confident.
(This post was last modified: 03-09-2012 11:22 PM by Schmechti.)
03-09-2012 11:22 PM
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