Self-Esteem shouldn't be circumstantial, right?
Well, it seems to be circumstantial to me. I've become aware lately about this tendency I have to have high self-esteem with girls that I "perceive" to be somehow "inferior" to me in the scales of: hotness, social status, income, education, etc. Of course if I "perceive" a girl to be "inferior" to me in those scales I act with a lot of confidence, I don't care about the outcome, I'm more aggressive, etc. But if I "perceive" a girl to be "superior" to me in those scales, well my "self-esteem" is not that high, I feel somewhat "inferior" and of course the girl sense this, I act needy and "lose" her. I was thinking about this and my self-esteem is really shitty (it hurts), I can't be a guy with high self-esteem with girls that I "perceive" to be inferior to me and low self-esteem with girls that I "perceive" to be superior to me, it doesn't make sense at all because by definition self-esteem should come from within of myself, no matter with what person I'm interacting, I can't put my value as a person in somebody else's hands, and of course if I do that my value as a person is gonna be in high risk if I interact with women that I perceive to be "superior" to me in those scales mentioned above. So, what to do when I interact with a girl that makes more money than me, that's hotter than me, that's younger than me, that's more educated than me, etc? Well, I suppose my self-esteem CAN'T change, that's what makes a man attractive, that's what makes ANY person attractive. But at the same time society values: social status, education, age, etc. I'm confused!