Sabotaging my own success...

[David85]

I've noticed that I've been getting MUCH better at this whole thing. Tonight, this reeeeeally cute brazilian tourist came up to me.. Talked to her, made her laugh,we exchanged numbers... She said she would be on the other end of the bar. She kept eyeing me but for whatever reason, I didn't go over! Maybe I was playing it tooo cool. Anyways, I think some other guy just danced with her and took her home. Something might still happen but not expecting anything. Very upset about not pulling the trigger. I can feel it. Just soooo close to unlocking pussy gold. haha. Don't know why, but I'm making my life MUCH more difficult than it needs to be. I feel like this whole dating thing is ridiculously easy, but I keep putting stupid roadblocks to my success. Fuck.


an aside...

I did switch venues to another bar, met some cool people, and met this cute texan who kept buying me shots. She was just visiting to get a feel for NYC. We danced, and when I tried to escalate, she's like I'm not that kind of girl... Acknowledge and keep moving forward. When she had to leave, I naturally went for a number close but she said shit like I have too much on my plate. I said that's cool. I still enjoyed my time with her. Said I'd rather not get a number than get one that's a flake. Wished her well.

(wicked move: Sorta invade their head space as if you're gonna kiss but you don't. you get a good feel as to weather or not she's ready)

10 minutes later, I really clicked with this French nurse from Switzerland who was there with her friends. Broken english but very cute accent! (note. You gotta be really patient with these types, because they get self-conscious about their english. Note #2: Don't assume the guy she's with is her bf. My friends didn't bother, I went and asked, she said no. You gotta read body language :-)

Anyways, got her number. She leaves saturday, but we already made plans to go clubbing on Friday. I'm supposed to show her a good time in NYC :-) hahaha

realizations... state changes so fuckin' easily. You always live in the now. One second, you could be on cloud 9, the next you feel like total shit. It is such key to ignore the past (bad for sure and even good to a certain extent) and to maximize your presence. Live in the now and try and have as much fun as you can.


Now.......

Back to the original paragraph. HOw do you guys make your life less difficult than it needs to be? Why am I putting up these stupid roadblocks? I can get pussy, but I feel like I have the potential to be getting sooooooo much more. I feel like I'm not that far off to getting dangerously good with women :-D. It feels really easy and things are really finally starting to click, but it's like I don't want it bad enough for some reason....

David

Ps... I encourage you all to keep diaries about your night. I always took it for granted and thought it was just a waste of time. I just recently started doing this, and I gotta say, It speeds up the learning curve like crazy. Really easy to go back, reflect, see what you did right and wrong and adjust. If you wish to have more success with women, I highly recommend doing this! NOT an option!

[Zelazny]

It doesn't seem that you're sabotaging your own succes, but that you're trying to get out of a plateau. The insight is there, you've identified the issue troubling you.

Seems you're ready for the next jump. And It'll come, because you are ready for it.