(I didn't want to clutter the Success Story thread with my reply so I placed it in this separate post instead)
(05-01-2012 10:41 PM)Reesays Wrote: Alright, my turn, could not have found topic at a better time.
As you all know, I made a thread about this one girl that I hate the ONEITIS for.
Well, the girl thought of me as a joke usually. She would ignore me when we were in a group and when we talked she seemed disinterested. In a way I let that get me down and thought that she was out of my league etc etc. So I would think of her and being with her and so forth (dumb beta White Knight garbage).
After a while, I did not run into her at all, must have been 2 weeks when I did not see her.
Saw her 2 days ago, we pass each other in the hallway, she looks at me, smiles, and says hi. I say hi right back without a smile and keep walking. I wonder why I even did that.
So I run into her yesterday, she says, "we are running into each other an awful lot, what do you think that means?", I say, "coincidence? maybe we are in the same place at the same time because we have the same type of work to do". She gives me the pissed off look, I smile and walk away.
Today, I was sitting in the school cafeteria eating breakfast. Guess who I see again? THAT GIRL. So she sits down at another table, I disregard her and keep eating my breakfast. Well I finish as I am walking to throw it away she is doing the same thing, we both throw it away at the same time.
She smiles and looks at me in a sillyway, I say "coincidence", smile and walk away. I did not care, maybe it is because I have a date lined up this Friday.
So later that afternoon we run into each other again, I look at her and smile and keep walking. "You can at least say hi!", is what she said. I look at her, smile, and say Hi. She laughs and says "you are different", I ask saying "taking shots at me now?', she says "that wasn't an insult". I tell her I have to get to work and to have fun with her finals. She says thanks, smiles, and walks away.
Thing is, I don't have those strong feelings for her, I am like "ya w/e".
This is a paradox here so stay with me: You say you don't have strong feelings for her, but yet who do you write a whole post and recall every detail about? HER!
She still occupies your mind...it may not be the same level of interest, but she still occupies your anger or some other negative emotion. In other words, if you're really no longer hooked on someone, you wouldn't feel the need to express how not hooked you are. Make sense?
So let's learn from this...don't take this lesson as specific to her, it can be any girl. When a girl talks to you and asks you a question such as, "what do you think that means"....don't get all serious and give her a logical, straight answer....have fun with it.
"It means you're stalking me and I think I'm going to get a restraining order".
"It means you're checking out my ass. But since you're looking...how does it look today?"
It doesn't matter so long as you say it with a light hearted attitude and a smile on your face. We say it here over and over again, it's not what you say but how you say it. Now imagine if you started that first conversation off with one of those replies....your subsequent run-ins would have been funnier and funnier because you could have built on that.
Don't treat women different between the ones you like vs the ones you don't vs the ones that are hot vs the ones that are not. Be a fun, easy going, cool, attractive guy to everyone. So many of your problems with women will be a non-issue if you take this thought process and approach.