Read Mode One?

[ThirdArm]

I already read Models and have read most of the dating articles here on PM.

Do I have much to gain by reading Mode One?

The details: I'm pretty much done with research when it comes to women and dating. I've encountered enough material, seen enough approaches and read enough theory to correct where I had gone wrong. It's time to focus on strictly real interactions and spend my free time in more productive ways.

With that said, if Mode One has any important lessons that can help me improve my interactions with women, or give me an improved perspective, I'll let it be the last dating book I read before finally finishing Atlas Shrugged (among others on my reading list).

I'm open to opinions.

For what it's worth, I've already read this thread: http://postmasculine.com/forum/Thread-Mo...of-Honesty

[TheoJ]

I am into reading this currently, and it seems pretty interesting so far.

If you are sure you have your issues handled (especially about honest, uninhibited communication) you can skip it without a nosebleed, but it can offer a new perspective.

Still 2-3 steps below Models.

[MagneticPerson]

I don't know where you are at with your confidence, and relationships with women but I think Mode One is more suited for guys who can already approach and talk to women and want to see improvement from that point on.

In that other thread I mentioned that I had read about the book on other forums. There seemed to be a theme of men who had read the book that were using "dirty talk" as a "technique" to approach. If you are not approaching, you should probably do that first before you read any other book.

The biggest thing I got from Mode One was to be: "Strong, Effective and Honest" with your communication.
Obviously this is better than being "weak, ineffective, or dishonest" with women.
If you feel you are any of those three things the book might help.

[ThirdArm]

Yes, I am approaching and being direct more often and in more diverse situations, but I still need work making things physical and getting dates. The Sexual Confidence program is helping immensely in giving me some specific guidelines and I have certainly seen improvement as my attitudes change and my behaviors reflect that.

Perhaps it's worth a read - and then I'll put an end to reading any more theory.

[MagneticPerson]

Quote:I still need work making things physical and getting dates

The first thing I thought of when I read this was a baby falling down. Note: don't take that the wrong way.

When you want to learn something think about a baby learning how to walk.
It has to take steps, and when it falls over it just means that it needs to learn from that and recalibrate for the next attempt.
The baby doesn't care who is around watching or what anybody else thinks, it wants to learn and it is completely motivated internally.

I think that as adults we forget this and put the responsibility for our validation on others. This translates as when you try to lead, you put too much concern on the woman (not saying be heartless of course). Put your concern on the actions you are taking - like the baby.

Maybe it would work if you don't personalize it. Just realize there is a man here who is attracted to a woman, what does the man do? The man leads both physically and verbally. Regardless of the players - you could be any guy, and insert any woman - this is what is supposed to take place.

This might help get out of the "oh man if I go for it and she thinks A-B-C, she will reject me and I will think X-Y-Z about it". Instead you just think "man takes action" almost like you are Tarzan haha.

Obviously, women are not machines and two women will react differently to the same event, but you are working on your actions and you can't control another person's reactions.

I'm shooting from the hip here - it makes sense to me but feel free to call me out on it if it sounds like bogus advice!

[ThirdArm]

(01-15-2013 11:55 PM)MagneticPerson Wrote:  The first thing I thought of when I read this was a baby falling down. Note: don't take that the wrong way.

Not at all, man. The great thing about persistently trying something is the instant feedback that results. Your analogy was spot-on.

As a matter of fact, the very paradigm you wrote about (about embracing my own male instinct regardless of reactions) is what I've been working on most recently.

I ordered the book. Considering it's supposed to be hyper-sexual - too sexual according to some - I think it'll be good to balance me out. My interactions are usually too tame, so I highly doubt reading a book will cause me to go the other direction. If anything, it'll offer some balance, if I even decide to take the author's advice.

At the very least, I can affirm that after reading this book (only 168 pgs), I'll stop reading dating material and consider myself graduated from theory.

[MagneticPerson]

Sweet - on multiple levels.
First, I was concerned that my analogies might have come across as psycho-babble haha.

Second, I was very much in a similar boat when I decided to start taking action in my life.
The way I was raised put a lot of nonsense and a firm and solid concept of how to be a man that was nearly 100% inaccurate.
I think the book can definitely balance you out in terms of being comfortable with physicality, but it may take a while to digest/accept it.

Thirdly, very good idea to give up reading and staying stuck in your head asap!

[ThirdArm]

I read the book. It was very concise and pretty sexually-based, like other users have said. Although it was a good read, I knew most of the information already. I don't think it will help much, but I'm glad I read it and can put dating material behind me now.

[ModeOne_Author]

Thank you all for reading my book(s) . . .

Alan Roger Currie
Author, "Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking"