Quantum physiqs? When being social people just hit me up!

[sledgehammer]

Anyone noticed this?

Last months Ive been going out alot. I basicly went from a place where I most often sat at home at the weekends, watching movies, eating pizza and shit and sometimes just hitting it up with some old friend or something, a very un-social life for sure, to a place where I go out 3-4 nights a week atleast, I also try to be a social as possible in the day to day life.

While I can feel myself getting more and more into this social charismatic role Ive notcied random people being nicer to me, in the store or whatever, thats pretty obvious.

However, what about the fact that girls that I havent heard of in YEARS or atleast MONTHS start messing me and shit? I get stuff like "Hey Ive been thinking of you lately, hows life?" from girls i havent talked to in fucking 2 years, but also old friends just starting calling me and shit. Its almost like when you feel great you attract people like crazy, not just cause others see you doing great, but how in the hell could people who live in different towns, old girls and friends who I mostly have lost contact with start initiating conversations, phonecalls and text messages out of the fucking blue?!

I started looking back and that's totally a pattern I notice. When I'm on point and making moves, I start hearing from people I haven't seen or heard from in AGES. When I chode out and start staying in more and justifying being lame as shit, it's like curtain call, all the dancers leave the stage.


Anybody else experienced this kind of fucked up shit? its like the fucking UNIVERSE seems to be punishing and rewarding you based on how you take care of your own life and how you feel about yourself?

[Brian]

sledgehammer Wrote:Anyone noticed this?

Last months Ive been going out alot. I basicly went from a place where I most often sat at home at the weekends, watching movies, eating pizza and shit and sometimes just hitting it up with some old friend or something, a very un-social life for sure, to a place where I go out 3-4 nights a week atleast, I also try to be a social as possible in the day to day life.

While I can feel myself getting more and more into this social charismatic role Ive notcied random people being nicer to me, in the store or whatever, thats pretty obvious.

However, what about the fact that girls that I havent heard of in YEARS or atleast MONTHS start messing me and shit? I get stuff like "Hey Ive been thinking of you lately, hows life?" from girls i havent talked to in fucking 2 years, but also old friends just starting calling me and shit. Its almost like when you feel great you attract people like crazy, not just cause others see you doing great, but how in the hell could people who live in different towns, old girls and friends who I mostly have lost contact with start initiating conversations, phonecalls and text messages out of the fucking blue?!

I started looking back and that's totally a pattern I notice. When I'm on point and making moves, I start hearing from people I haven't seen or heard from in AGES. When I chode out and start staying in more and justifying being lame as shit, it's like curtain call, all the dancers leave the stage.


Anybody else experienced this kind of fucked up shit? its like the fucking UNIVERSE seems to be punishing and rewarding you based on how you take care of your own life and how you feel about yourself?

Same dude. I think it's the feeling you give out to the world. I have experience this as well

[sledgehammer]

Brian Wrote:Same dude. I think it's the feeling you give out to the world. I have experience this as well

Yes Im really starting to get suspicious about this. I mean, yeah, it would only be logical that people you meet in the REAL WORLD will behave better towards you if you yourself are acting with more confidence, positivity, being more charismatic etc, I mean, duh!

What really freaks me out is all the other shit, like girls I almost NEVER speak to contacts me and basicly wanna hook up, or very old friends from elementary schools ask me if I wanna join their party etc etc.

At first I just thought "lol coinsidence", but the more Im having these "ups and downs" (sometimes I just feel crap and wanna be a introvery doing nothing for a while) the more I start to see this pattern.

Its really weird as fuck lol

[CharlesB]

I have experienced something similar.I reached the point that I thought there is some conspiracy where everyone knows what I m doing.
Another strange thing,when I had the first confidence boost of pick up.lines delivered through internet(myspace and without having a photo in my profile.)working perfectly .After when I reached to the after-effect condition ,the same lines stopped working!So it couldnt be the way I conveyed these "lines",because nobody was seeing my body language ,face expression etc.

[Chaos]

I would say it's just human nature to see causation whenever there's correlation ... I think I heard somewhere that we unconciously reject or "forget" facts that disprove our initial assumption.

That way, whenever someone you haven't heard from in a long time calls you and you're in a low mood, there's no correlation, you don't make the connection and just forget about it... Then when there's a correlation you just draw the pattern and forget about "all those other times"

[DerDomi]

I think that's social dynamics. You're more friendly, more positive, more self-suffficient and people want to be around you more.

Quantum physics is hell interesting and mind-bending stuff, but I hate this "the secret"-idiocy.

Best for your path
DD

[sledgehammer]

DerDomi Wrote:I think that's social dynamics. You're more friendly, more positive, more self-suffficient and people want to be around you more.

Quantum physics is hell interesting and mind-bending stuff, but I hate this "the secret"-idiocy.

Best for your path
DD

How to people miles away from you whom u havent spoken to in like 2 years know ure more positive and friendly now?

[Justin]

wtf does this have to do with quantum physics?

[Zelazny]

Because the causation goes the wrong way and it's somehow strange to understand why it is.

But yeah, feeling better will make people talk to you, making you feel even better. It's an upward spiral of awesome.